OK, it was 9:00pm & I just got home from school. I work full-time & go to school 2 nights a week. I stopped by CVS to get the boyfriend the newspaper & grabed myself a pizza. I assume he'd already eaten because I've been in class & its not like there's going to be a meal cooked this late at night. He had an Ebay auction going on & called me in his room and we were watching it (everything was fine) but then, I needed to put my pizza in the oven... I turn on the timer but it gets stuck at 12 hours instead of 12 minutes. I ask him to come look at it and he acts irratated. He then says well you need to fix it because I don't want it going off while we're on vacation ( hold on... we're not going on vacation for 3 weeks). Now I know he's been drinking... so I ask about it and he says No he's not drunk. To make a long story short he hacked into my email and read some old emails to other guys. Brings up old dirt, and then tells me all the guys I dated before were losers & he was the only winner. He went on to tell me to "move into a trailer" and that I'm " riding on his coat tail" - I've rarely asked him for gas in my car, let alone money. It seems to me he holds his financial freedom over my head.
I think its only fair I tell you that he's looking for a job right now & is under a lot of stress. He says I'm not around to support him. (I only work 40hrs a week & attend school - I'm not out partying)
1. I think email/journals are private - I have nothing to hide but I choose who reads what
I write.
2. I think his words were verbally abusive - he gets this way when angry. I tell him its verbal abuse & he says I like playing the victim.
3. I've always struggled to know when its just a fight or the relationship has taken a turn for the worse.