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msgoose · Oct 21, 2007, 07:36 PM

My husband bought our daughter home 1/2 an hour late. Her clothes where dirty with food and dirt. I just said to him that as favor to me, he should've of called me from the highway and told me he was running late. Also, I remined him that I do pack our daughter an extra set of clothes for him to change her when she gets dirty. I told him I understood the baby getting so dirty, I normally change her 3 times a day. But, I want her clean for on the way home, if something where to happen. No one would see her dirty, and think that we are unfit.
I mean, I just tired to take the high road on this one. He & I still live in the same house. That is stress-full enough. But, I am going to report this to the court tomorrow. Every weekend is the samething. His late, the baby comes home all dirty and hungry. He never gives her any of the snacks I pack for her. Today he told me he gave her only 3 ounces of milk all day. A toddler should have at least 20 ounces a day...
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cjonline · Oct 22, 2007, 08:53 AM

I'm sorry but what's the question?

ScottGem · Oct 22, 2007, 08:55 AM

There doesn't appear to be a question here. If you want to know should you be upset, the answer is yes. If you want to know whether you should complain to the court,the answer is also yes.

msgoose · Oct 22, 2007, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by cjonline

I'm sorry but what's the question?

Ok, The question is. I can't continue letting him do this. He has no respect for the courts order and I'm the one that is worried when I don't hear from them and He just continues to do what ever he wants.
Should I contact the court and take issue. If so, should I also, ask the court to reduce his parenting time. Since, He has scheduled parenting time from Friday at 6pm until Sunday at 7pm and he only takes her on saturdays and sundays.

ScottGem · Oct 22, 2007, 04:07 PM

If he is continuously violating the court order and not taking proper care of the child, then yes, you can file for modification of the visitation.

msgoose · Oct 22, 2007, 04:56 PM

Thank you very much. This answer has been very helpful. THank you again

cjonline · Oct 22, 2007, 05:53 PM

You might want to make a list of all the things your ex does that concerns you. When you file you can list your reasons for the change; list them all so they all can be addressed -- if you don't list them you might not be able to talk about them in court. If the Judge doesn't change the time that he has her then at least the Judge can say he can't do X Y and Z or he must do A and B. That way you can take him back for contempt if he doesn't. At least it would be on record this is happening and you tried your best to do something about it.

File the papers now. The more time that goes by that you don't do anything to stop/correct this kind of thing, it looks like you are OK with what he is doing and if you bring it up later then it will look like spite not concern. However you need to give him the chance to correct the way he does things; don't just take him to court without telling him what needs to be done. This way court is the last resort.