[Jose_monteri]

Hi, this is something I've had playing on my mind for ages believe me. I have read some other forums trying to find something similar however I think I need a personal specific views.

Scene: I have been with my girlrfiend for 3yrs on and off. I am 21 she is 20. She is great and would do anything for me I think. She is my first girlfriend, she has had previous relationships. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being best) I would rate our overall relationship a 7. at times it can be amazing, great, funny, beautiful and leave me smiling. Other times I feel like crap and consider being single. One of these things slightly pushing me away from her is her parents. From the first day I met them they have never really shown any interest in me. I feel like 'just another boyfriend' - which initially I was, but I have been with this girl for much longer than anyone else.

I find myself always trying to make the conversation with her parents, however everything I mention - they have done, and know everything about. They watch TV whenever in the house and never engage in eye contact. When I try and speak to them they continue watching TV which is extremely annoying. When I do talk to them the response I get is one of the few, 'oh yeah', 'Ohww', 'Ah right', 'ah okay' - in a plastic 'i don't care' attitude. They are quite childish and always making crap jokes, criticizing stuff most things, and are quick to have a laugh on my behalf god forbid I should make a mistake or something happen to me. I do not respect them, I cannot take them seriously - they are a joke - and it gets me down. ( I have had other girl mates - and when seeing them their parents are really nice and welcoming, interesting and approachable (I believe this to be my comparison))

However they are my girlfriends parents, we have talked about long term plans, when things have been very good, and we are very compatible - however seriously thinking, I do not know how the hell I could cope with her parents long term?!

Does anybody have same issue, should it matter? Or is this life?

[BiWiccanAndProud]

Lol you got a problem there don't you ^.^ here's my advice... do what they are doing to you.. ignore them :P. If they ask you why you never talk to them anymore then straight up tell them it's cause they never want to. And if you were to get married it doesn't mean that you will always her parents. Very... very... VERY few people like their in-laws. I love my boyfriends parents but he has some with mine... he talks to them when he can but normally just sticks with me. Sometimes it irritates my parents but they are used to it. Base line... just treat them how they do you and ignore them or seem uninterested, give them a taste of their own medicine :P

[Jose_monteri]

Ah, I hadn't thought of that, you've lightened my stress upon the situation temporarily thanks .

[shygrneyzs]

You tried your best. Maybe they do not take you seriously as husband material for their daughter. Who knows? You remain polite and respectful. My in-laws often acted like outlaws and I never knew which way they were going to turn. It is true that one does marry the whole family, but one does not live with the whole family. You and your girlfriend, should she become your wife, will carve out your own niche - establish your own traditions and celebrations, make new friends together, honor your families, raise a family, have your careers, and can only be responsible to each other (not to each other's family). If you are lucky, you will live where neither set of parents live and that will be easier on the marriage. Take care.