[lostinIN]

I already know the answer but it is so hard to let go. I have been divorced for 9 years now and moving on from him was easier than moving on from the guy my heart is in love with now. I met him before I was divorced but we were just neighbors, both our spouces left us for another and we found ourselves talking to one another and a friendship developed. However a year later he missed his child so much that he moved three states away to be with her "his daughter". We have kept in touch through the past 7 years since he left, and until recent development I was also talking with his daughter, whom I knew and was friends with my children when she lived here. He has so many walls up around his heart that he won't let anyone in, he really has no friends because of these walls except for me. His daughter has in away left him now also, she dropped out of school, got pregnant at 16 and now is married leaving a lot of pain left behind in his heart. He called me two years ago and told me he had met someone and they were getting married but not even a year had passed and we were talking again and he wasn't married and they weren't together. I let him go out of my life when this happened but not out of my heart. So when we started talking again, one time out of many, we were talking about being together again. I won't get into all the ugly details of the happenings but we are once again not communicating, he says he is back with this woman again, but I don't think he is, but he is afraid of a relationship because all his past one's haven't worked out. I am as honest and faithful as the day is long, but my heart is hurting for him so much that moving on is hard. I know that I should tell him where to go and move on with my life, but my heart and soul keeps telling me stay. I have prayed about this to the good Lord up above and every time I do, my faith in us becomes stronger. I've ask to be let go of the situation and him if it isn't meant to be, and again faith becomes stronger. I've met other guys, went out on dates and tried to make it work, but nothing. I would just like to know why guys act the way they do. Lost in IN...

[elllyne13]

If you love something set it free; If it comes back its yours; If it doesn’t it never was

Relationships are never easy.
If you can't let go, don't keep it all. It'll only hurt you faster and more than you trying to heal. It's hard to keep a relationship in this situation (in my opinion). It's better just to remain friends.

It's better to be friends than lovers, for friends can give you the world, while a lover can only give you their heart and soul

I do hope this helps out