[Clough]

Ditto, Didi!

[Clough]

Do you want me to send that private message to you now, Michelle?

[br_hjs]

Yes please

[br_hjs]

So what do you think I can say to my boyfriend to get him to stop lying about things? Hes not hideing anything to big but he just always acts like he doesn't know what he's talking about and lies about little things. And then when I bring it up he just says things like "i dont know what your talking about" or "I can't remember"

[Clough]

yes please

Then, here it comes! Do you promise that you won't post the contents of the message on the thread that we are on right now? That means with everything else that has been posted so that all can see it.

[br_hjs]

Yeah I pomise

[Clough]

Good! Please check your Inbox in the next couple of minutes. Thank you!

[Clough]

I sent it. Please let us know that you received it. Also, please know that it is mainly for entertainment purposes - that is important that you realize that. Although, there may be some truth to it.

I am going to have to leave for a little bit. Grammadidi will be able to help you if you have questions. I will return.

I do want to also point out, that it is getting late. You do have school tomorrow, correct? So, if you do have school, then we are going to have to cut off communications at a reasonable hour for the night so that you can get some sleep. Okay?

[grammadidi]

so what do u think i can say to my bf to get him to stop lying about things? Hes not hideing anything to big but he just always acts like he doesnt know what hes talking about and lies about little things. And then when i bring it up he just says things like "i dont know what your talking about" or "I can't remember"

I guess you just have to start trusting him more. I know one thing, if you keep accusing somebody of things that they really didn't do (or remember) they will get tired of it and move on. Michelle, I am assuming that you want honesty here, right? That is why we came over and started this thread? Honestly, you are too wrapped up in distrust. You have a tendency to over-react to things because you are unhappy in your own personal life. Sweetie, I really think you need a therapist or counsellor... someone to talk to about all this stuff AND the way you feel.

I don't know you very well, but I will tell you what I see. I see a very sad, lonely young lady who feels like the people she cares about the most don't care about or for her. You are afraid of being hurt, so you push people away. Some, like the kids at school, you push away by being a loner, by not smiling or talking to them or eating with them. Others, like your boyfriend, you push away by being obsessive, untrusting, etc. It's really like a defense mechanism.

Until you get the help that you need you will continue to be unhappy. There is a lot of great help out there, Michelle, but you have to grab on to it when it is offered, or go out seeking it when it isn't. Only you know what is in the depths of your heart, Michelle. When I try to join you in there all I feel is pain and overwhelming sadness and loneliness. The saddest part of that, for me, is that I KNOW it does NOT have to be that way.

If you trust me enough to PM me and tell me where you live, and even what you think you need, then I will help you get the help you so badly need. You deserve it, Michelle. Things just cannot get better until you do!

I care, sweetie, and I extend my hand and my arms to you. I hope you accept them.

Warm Hugs, Didi

[br_hjs]

I know he's lying because I let him borrow my cell phone and he gave it back the next day and said that he couldn't get it to turn on. But when he gave it back, some pictures of him on their were deleted and I didn't delete them. They were their until he borrowed it. So he had to have turned it on.
He didn't trust me before either,. he had a cell phone and didn't let me knmow about it and he text me and pretended to be someone else and all this stuff but I knew it was him. But the thing is that he always said that he doesn't know how to text and all that.

[grammadidi]

Oh, and you boyfriend MAY lie because he's afraid to tell you the truth because of the way you feel or react. Maybe he just doesn't want to hurt you... or maybe he just doesn't want to fight with you. Of course, there is always the possibility that he doesn't really care. All of those reasons give you more reason to make a good life for yourself. You need to love yourself or you will be unhappy, taken advantage of, lied to and hurt for many years to come. I'm not saying that this boy is doing that, but others will.

Hugs, Didi

[grammadidi]

Maybe you BOTH just aren't ready for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Is he troubled?? Does he have problems with other kids or adults? Is he a loner?? If so, then maybe he is very much in need of the same things you are, hun. People with problems tend to gravitate to other people with problems.

Hugs, Didi

[br_hjs]

He has quite a lot of friends but he always talks about how none of the other kids ever liked him and he likes to be alone and all kinds of stuff... the last time that he wanted to break up was in June and it wasn't like it used to be evryday where he was mad... this time he said that he didn't want a girlfriend and when he was ready I'd b the 1st he calls but he likes it better by himself and there's less to worry about... etc


I got to go its too much for me to type. And I keep messing up on like every word and I'm like really strssing out bad over this homework

[br_hjs]

They give me WAy too much I've been doing it for like 3 hours now

[grammadidi]

I thought you were going to stay off the computer until it was done! Sigh... Michelle, go do your homework. I'll be here tomorrow, but my adopted daughter and I are going out for supper, so it will probably be around 8 pm or so. Please try to finish your homework first.

Good night, sweetie. Talk to you tomorrow.

Hugs, Didi

PS... Maybe it's time to let him go and just concentrate on you.

[Clough]

It is getting late and time for bed for those who need to get up early in the morning.

Michelle, did you get the message that I sent to you?

[br_hjs]

O I gave up on the homework... it was too much. I couldn't handle all of it. I couldn't even think. I couldn't concentrate. And I think it may have even given me a panic attack because it was too much... a 10 point assignment with like 20 problems took me over an hour to do. And she only grades 5 problems so I probaby failed it

[br_hjs]

I spent an hour doing homework and another hour, really imatient and panicing to get done with it.

[Clough]

Are you going to answer my question, please?

[br_hjs]

Yeah I got it.