[kittykatmeli]

Okay here is how it goes... I cheated on my ex boyfriend( he use to beat me) with this guy called levi for 3 yrs it was on and off thou. But this guy levi was really sweet and he always treated me with respect and he cared about . But I was "inlove with my ex" so I would always push him away. So I stop talking to him for like a year. And now he came back to my life, but he's the one with the girlfriend now that lives with him. So now I'm was the secret lover and I don't like it. We would see each other everyday while he was working we would go to the hotel, out to eat and sometimes at night when he could out to dance. I finally got tired because I was never the second girl, I told him to pick me or her. He told me he didn't love here but that she loves him a lot and that he don't really know if I loved him or not so why would I leave someone that I love for someone that I don't even know if they love me. Week later she caught him, she read our text messages.
She called me crying and I told her that we were talking but that we never ed which is a lie. And I told her he's the one that looks for me. I was pissed and I told him to leave me alone and that he made he's decision already. 3 months passed and I called him and know where back in the same page. But now I'm going to try to get him because he was mine first and I know he loves me because he would'nt cheat on here right? And I know he only hooked up with her because he was lonely because he has no family here and she only wants to be with him because he's rich hell. So I'm going to try to get him back!! I don't think this is wrong because she's just a girlfriend not a wife and they have no kids together.what do you think? Should I give up? Should I try? Am I doing wrong? Please tell me I need help!

[Homegirl 50]

I think you are pitiful. You cheated with this guy for three years because you would not leave the boy friend that was beating you. The guy you want now is obviously a cheater, he did when you were with some one and now he's cheating again on someone.
You two deserve each other.
I hope he gives his current girl friend a break and leaves her. But you'd better watch out because pay back is a b***h. If you think once you two get together he won't cheat on you, you are fooling yourself.

[chuff]

Wow. Seriously, are you that deprived for entertainment that you must resort to all this for some drama in your life?

[kittykatmeli]

The reason why I couldn't leave him because I was young when I first met him I was 15. I was in love with him. And he knew I that I loved him so much he knew I could'nt leave him so he took advantage of me. He was my first. He would cry to me telling me he's sorry that he'll never do it again. He would change 4 like 3 weeks then do it again. I think I just got use to him and I had hope he'll change. I tried so many times and I always went back to him. We would break up for a week maybe a month and that's the time I was with levi. I don't think I did wrong playing my ex I'm stupid for staying that long in the relationship. But I just couldn't do it I really tried so many times. When I use to tell people we broke up they would never believe me they would always tell me I know your going to get back with him.
But the last time he beat me it was badly he gave me a black eye, bruises on my face, busted my upper and lower lip, and I had bruises all over my body. That's when I pressed charges on him and left him 4 good. To tell you the truth after he did that to me I blamed myself and I still wanted to be with him. I wanted to cover him up. I told my mom I got into a fight at the club but she knew. But its been like 7 months sice that happen and I'm over him. I'm finally happy.

[J_9]

So, you are finally happy being the other woman? You are very dysfunctional yet you just don't see it.

[chuff]

How old are you now?

Do you really think any of what your doing is healthy? When you read what you write does it sound like the words of someone that should be dating at all at this stage in her life?

[Leidenschaftlich für Wahr]

CHEATING will never be justified. By you allowing this to go on you are bringing instability into his life and making a vary loud statement by your actions that you have no love for him whatsoever you only have your own selfish desires to fulfill.

[kittykatmeli]

It might not be healty but life is too short and I do whatever makes me happy. I think being happy is what everyone wants and that's what we live for right?
Okay first of all love has no age you can't help loving someone and it doesn't matter how old you are. And I'm not afraid of being hurt because I've been hurt to many times my tears have dried up. So all I have is hope...

[Leidenschaftlich für Wahr]

You do whatever makes you happy? If you had any idea how much this situation holds onto every aspect of your life and hurts you as well as two other people. By all of your posts it doesn't seem very apparent that you're happy at all. So before you proclaim that you do whatever makes you happy, try to figure out what exactly that is, first.

[kittykatmeli]

I'm happy I learned to let go of the past and I moved on I learned from my mistakes and now I'm stronger then ever before.

[J_9]

Yet you keep making mistakes. Sheesh, how old are you?

You haven't learned anything.

[chuff]

it might not be healty but life is too short and i do whatever makes me happy.

But your not happy.

i think being happy is what everyone wants and thats what we live for right?

But you not living your own life, your living the shadows of those around you and hiding yourself in the drama it creates.

okay first of all love has no age you can't help loving someone and it dosn't matter how old you are.

The question was not if you could avoid the question with some lame generic answer but rather how old are you now?

and i'm not afraid of being hurt because i've been hurt to many times my tears have dried up. so all i have is hope...........................

Then why are you here?

[kittykatmeli]

Trust me I learned a lot! I know it might be kind of wrong for what I did but I don't regret it if I had the chance I would do it again. And my ex deserves it!

[kittykatmeli]

I'm not avoiding it I'm 19!!
TRUST ME I AM HAPPY!! Different things make people happy so you really don't know if I'm happy. Plus I don't depend on a guy to make me happy but on myself!

[chuff]

i'm not avoiding it i'm 19!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
TRUST ME I AM HAPPY!!!!!!! different things make people happy so you really dont know if i'm happy.

People who are happy don't get their a$$ kicked and then say it was okay because he loved me, and I regret that my mom stepped in and helped me. TRUST ME YOU AREN'T FOOLING ME.

[kittykatmeli]

I'm happy! Now I bearly realized it wasn't okay and that my mom was right the whole time and I'm so happy she was by my side the whole time and I thank her for doing what she did because if she didn't I would have never left him. And now I won't for any guys to talk to me with disrespect or to put their hands on me. Never again.

[bignaked101]

Wow... you kind of made me laugh there... seriously... that's a little weird... I think you guys aren't in love... you're lusting him and he's lusting you, and you guys are just putting innocent peoples hearts on the line, because if he doesn't love her, he shouldn't be with her, he should be with you, so you guys can cheat on each other... once a cheater... always a cheater.

[kittykatmeli]

Not so true people do change if they really want to. And I know its not lust because I've been in that like so many times so I would know if it is or not. And just to let you know I'm not immature why do you say that because I'm in this situation? There's a lot of people out there that are in the same situstion as me and there like forty years old and guess what its with a married man.

[kittykatmeli]

Well everyone thanks everyone for being so kind and helping me out!

[J_9]

Helping you out with what? You said it yourself... you're happy. So, what is it you need help with?

Every time we tried to help you, you came back with excuses.

You're 19, a cheater, and happy to be one. What exactly to you need help with?