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    Sep 30, 2007, 09:25 AM
    I cannot move on!
    My partner ended things after 3 years and even though it has been 5 months I am STUCK. I am keeping busy, gym, swimming, friends etc, but everyday I ask myself if only we could have one last chance. I blame myself for the breakup as I feel I asked too much from him. I wanted commitment and asked if we could live together. He told me he was sorry but he had to 'let me go' to find another love that I deserved. I asked him if he loved me and he said yes, but that he didn't feel it right in his heart, but he didn't want to stop me having the future I wanted. I want to get back with him as I feel we could have the relationship we did, but without the living together. We never argued, had great sex and enjoyed lots of things the same. I am kicking myself for talking about the future a few times over the last year and I drove him away. We had so much together to just throw away, I can't believe he ended it just to allow me a future with someone else! Couldn't we have talked and compramised somehow. He is 44 and never been married, sometimes I think he was just scared. We are still friends and we tex from time to time but I don't want rejection all over again. How to I move on. Please help..
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    Sep 30, 2007, 10:15 AM
    You stay away from him!
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    Sep 30, 2007, 11:48 AM
    I think you need to realize the 'im letting you go for you to find a better life' line isn't genuine. It's a way to let someone down 'gently'(and it doesn't work). Don't kick yourself over asking him to take the relationship further, I don't think that's the real reason this all happened.

    You have already said you don't want rejection again so you probably know what to (not) do.

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