[rawtyra]

Can anyone tell me how you can earn your trust back from a loved one
To cut a long story short I cheated on him a few times 3 times that is but every time I have had a drink and didn't mean to hurt him and I talks to family that he hates
I really do love him we have a daughter together and I just don't want to lose him he do not trust me at all but I don't blame him as I have been a bad person to him and I want to make it up to him but every time I am trying to make things better for us its like he try to make another row with him and then he brings it all up again and says that he do not trust me and there is no ponit in trying
Can anyone help as I do love him and I don't want to lose him:( :confused:

[crushedovernover]

Coming from a guy who's girlfriend just cheated on him and we have a son. You f***ed up. YOu clearly have no self respect and no respect for him. YOu don't love him because if you did you would have kept your legs closed. Im sorry for being so harsh and partly I AM taking my anger out on you which is very wrong but you need to see what you done is TERRIBLE. Not only 1 but 3 times. Your lucky he even still talks to you. How I think of my ex is USED AND ABUSED. This guy doesn't want sloppy seconds. YOu need to really prove to him. Offering sex to him 24/7 IS NOT THE ANSWER Either. You need to make him feel adequat but also give him his space. I don't blame him for not wanting to try.. SO he can try so you can do it all over again. Shame on you. Im sorry but shame on you. You don't get sympathy from me. I probably crossed the line with what I'm saying since this board is for heeling but mabe you should move on since you have PROOVEN 3 times that you don't care about him.. Even more reason for you to walk away is if the three times WERE WITH 3 different guys.. If that is the case.. And you say you love him, if that is the case then let him be and leave him alone so he can be happy because yOU Don't MAKE him happy by cheating on him. Gross. How is he supposed to be intimate with you knowing someguys stuff has been in there.. Shame on you.

[rawtyra]

The thing is you don't know the full story!!
When I cheated on him we were only together for about 3 months and then he got sent to prison and he had to do 18 months but only ended up doing 9 months for something he didn't do!! But that was before I met him so it had notting to do with me at all it was to do with him and his ex
Well anyway he got sent to prison and we were still seeing each other on the phone and iny the visits I really cared for him when he was inside and I didn't want to hurt him at all but I got friendly with this 1 person called paul and we got drunk 1 night and we ended up sleeping together I never meant for it to happen but it did then it was a few more months later and I got drunk again and slept with another man and then I slept with this paul
At thie time I felt lonely and unwanted I didn't want him to find out at all but as time went by I felt myself growing on kris that is my boyfriend by the way
We had a visit one day and he knew something was up and I just had to tell him because I really did care about him at the time but I didn't want to tell him while he was inside but he forsed me to tell him so I had to
But that was 2 year ago then we had a child 11 months now and we have had rows too so we thought some time apart would help but at the time when we were apart I seen 1 of my ex and we were having a drink togeher and he gave me a love bite and I know love bites stands for something but notting like that happened it was just a joke and he gave me a love bite well I told kris and things have just got worse from there and I have not did it since I swear I know he don't believe me but I'm telling the truth I just wish it could all go back to the way that we used to be like because we were so happy back then when we were first together.:( :confused: :eek:

[talaniman]

Let be honest while your having a good time. You get with the exes and expect your now B/F to be okay with that?? I don't think so!! Now you want to go back to the happy times, with your B/F? I don't think so. Ain't that much love in the world to be made a fool of and think IT'S ALL GOOD! I don't think so! It will take a lot of time and positive action to overcome the DUMB stuff you have done. If ever.

[MissingHim2Much]

I can't see how he would ever trust you again after cheating 3 times. I don't even think you trust yourself not to cheat. One time could be considered a mistake but 3 times I would call serial cheating and that's unforgivable.

[friend4u178]

I totally agree with the Missing and the others , how can you possibly expect someone to trust you after you've cheated 3 times , and then when you know he isn't trusting you you go and let an Ex give you a Love bite... PLEASE!!

[rawtyra]

I agree with what you all say but I do really love him and I want nothing more then for us to be happy that is all I'm asking is a chance to prove that I am going to be faithful and honest to him for as long as I live I have learned my lesson and to be honest with you all it hit the s**t out of me because I really thought that I have lost him and my family but I just want him to give me a chance to trust me I would not let him down ever again I love him too much for all that.

[tina919]

I think it might be good 4 you to find yourself and who you really are and do you want a family