[MyInterestDesk]

I have a male friend, which I talk online, who permanently wants to talk sex to me (he tries in every way, he uses all methods to involve me in online talks), but he does not want to call or date with me since five years. We live 6.000 miles far away, that´s the problem too. He gets angree if I refuse to talk online with him, especially if it´s sexually. I don't want talk sex online to him, because it come to nowhere. We argue together and after we do not talk for weeks, because of his sexual driving, then all starts again. He says hello and try conversation with me, which ends with the same - we argue. Nothings moves on. And he says he is my friend.

He used to ask my phones and andresses, sent me some gifts to my address, but he does not want meet or call (even once) in five years we talk. If I ask him, why he does not make a call (as friend), he says he does not know what to say on phone... And he says he wants sex with me and he think of me.

He is american-irish and catholic (43), lifes separated with kids for seven years near Syracuse, NY (so he said he is separated. I can not check it up, because we never saw each other in real - he also hid before informations about it. I only have his pictures and he has many of mine. He hid all kid of informations from me (three years long he hid his day of birth. And if I got some infos about him, through net by my search, - he laughts). The address were right.

The point of story is the other one: All the time while five years, almost every week or day, he asked me for my worn panties to send to him. I did no do that, of course. He said if I do, he would call me after that and date with me and even fly and marry me if he got to sniff my panties. Fife years now he refuses to date and call me a once (having my phone, knowing all about me), because I do not send my panties to him. Now I refuse to talk to every kind of converstion, which has a word "sex" in it. Because nothing moves on.

So is he a gay? On pics and on phone (I heard his answering mashine) he sounds very normal and even very attraktive, has good profession. I think men, who refuse normal real sex to woman or do not date with woman are impotent. The man who can not have sex... no matter of what, for him intimacy is a problem if it comes to the moment to perform himself. I don't believe, that the man will converse with woman, visit her, and care about her and do not want to sleep with her. Its noncence for me.

To my guy, I can not check up the exact information about him, that's my problem. And I don't want to call him first, I have his phones and he knows it. (he hid phones and his private address). He even does not tell me if he lives alone or if he lives with his wife and with whom he lives. He only says he has no sex, is separeted, has custody for kids and that many years.

About your case... with your guy.

What I can think, that can be good is- to get more infos as possible about your guy. To call a dedective or hire someone to check up, who is him. To look up, who lives in his house. Who is his woman? There are some database in the internet by White Pages | Yellow Pages | Reverse Phone Lookup | People Search or Intelius People Search - Public Records, Background Checks & More. You can look up the history of your guy, his background if you wish.
If I have had a possibility to live near my "loving friend" or I were near the home of him I would check it up, who he really is. But I can´t do that, as I live in the different country. And I would not travel for it.

If your man has a relathionship with a woman, as you said, it would be good to check up with whom he lives and if he is married? Go evening to his home, take a friend with you and you do check up both, whom he lives with. Also, there are some public databases online providing informations about people´s backgrounds and identity. Get more infos as possible about him. If he is married, then just stop with him.
If he is not married and he lives in the relationship with someone, then say to him to make a choice. He can not live in the relathionship with other woman and at the same time goes visit you, using your attention, just because you are alone mother with a kid. You want more with him, so he should marry you and provides you his love on real way, if he loves you. Just to be a friend on visit, it´s nothing for a woman, who has a kid, who needs security and needs the attention and the constantly presence of a man, who cares of her.

But first you need to know if he really has someone he lives with?. Who is this woman? For me it sounds like he has no one. He has no woman, because a man who lives with the woman, can not just kisses other one, beiing 44 y.o. If the man just kisses woman and then refuses to have sex with her (even if he is married or in relathionship) - something is wrong with it. Maybe he has sexual problems.. Maybe he scares to show you what he has as man.. you know what I mean. Men are very sensitive about his, and they scare to be refused. At least the man is the man, he always wants the same. It´s the nature. If he can not provide the sexuality to woman, he likes or loves - then something is wrong.
Check it up.

And then tell us, what was the resault.

[nicespringgirl]

MID,
You ask us if he is a gay?

I tell you I think he needs some professional help. Seem to me, he has serious mental problems.
A wierdo, at least...

[MyInterestDesk]

Attention! I do not criticize anyone. I try to describe the situation to the topic IS POSTED in this portal for public view, that people can read and help you. You asked question and help, so answered you with an advise. I hope, I could answer to your Q, taking my time.

Try to find more about your guy and his woman (if he has one or if he is married) if you want to be with him and then diside FOR YOU if you accept this. If you diside be THE THIRD woman, this its your choice. No one else can decide it for you, but only you. People just can give you advise on here, help with opinions. Many people many opinions.

For me personaly if a guy would be involved in the relationship (or married), I would cencel with him, or just stay friends with him on friendship basis, not asking more. If he has money and he tries to help you financially- it his choice. You can also diside to take money or not - but taking it you get in depend on him.

I hope I could help you with my answer. Much luck.

<<<I look younger when I smile ;) I never feel my pic is good enough so I change it constantly.:P <<< This answer I did not understand. It does not feed to the topic.

[nicespringgirl]

<<<I look younger when I smile I never feel my pic is good enough so I change it constantly.:P <<< This answer I did not understand. It does not feed to the topic.

That is part of my signature. NOt part of my post.lol

[talaniman]

Why have you wasted so much time on this sex freak, after 5 years don't you know he isn't interested in you at all, but what you can do over the net for him. Stop contacting him. Be a lot more careful who you deal with over the Internet.

[Chery]

Call me dense, but I see a confused question and the answer - both appearing from the same individual.

Maybe, just maybe this was cut-and-pasted in here the wrong way.

Gosh, now where did I put my glasses?

[talaniman]

Actually I moved her posts to its own topic, to preserve the other thread, and give her a shot at some feed back, so its not your glasses, its just me... again.