[jeremy4719]

She's not the type to meet someone and have sex with them... That is one of the things I'm sure of...

If I went, I think I would be thinking about her the entire time on the ship... I might have fun in my passing moments of fun in the sun, but all in all, I think I would think of her and be hard pressed to say something to her...

If a woman tells you she doesn't see you the same anymore because of something, that to me means its over for good... I don't see us getting back together... I care about her, but we are too different...

[jeremy4719]

Re-opening and continuing the newest twist on this thread...

So tonight I met her to get my ring back... Thought maybe she would show some emotion or talk a bit, but no... She just said here is your stuff... She said I didn't get my passport, so have fun on the cruise... That was it! I about died that this woman I spent so damn much of my life with simply gave me a bag and then left? How the hell is that right? I thought we'd at least talk a few minutes... I'm so devastated by this whole break up that I honestly don't even know if I want to go on the cruise (even if she isn't going now)... I'm so frickin' hurt by this whole thing... How could she not give me the respect and honor when we met up to exchange stuff?? How can she of supposedly loved and wanted to spend her life with me, but not give me a few minutes with her??

[Skell]

Well it doesn't heal the pain you are feeling right now Jeremy but at least your problem with respect to the cruise is solved.

I know its hard and when they act so cold to us after so much time it really hurts. BUt in ways it is also a positive. Sitting down and talking through things again will get you nowhere. There is no such thing as closure. You'll just have more questions. She might have realised this.

The best thing to do now is to stop worrying about her and what she is feeling and worry about you.

Go on the cruise. It will be good for you. When my ex broke up with me I went to Germany (I live in Australia) for last years Football World Cup. It was awesome. It didn't make me completely get over the ex but it sure helped me focus on other things for a week or two.

Break ups and how people act during them don't generally make much sense. It is all too emotional. Don't try and work out her feelings and motives. You can't control them. Worry about the feelings you do have some control over! YOURS!

Enjoy your trip. See if you can get a friend to go along with you!

[GlindaofOz]

I think the cruise is without a doubt the best thing for you to do right now especially since she will not be going.

You will be out on some amazing boat in the middle of the ocean. It will allow you to be away from everything that is going on right now and if nothing else allow you to get a wicked awesome tan and drink.