[mazeman]

I have been dating this girl a year and a half now,we had a fight in may.issue was that I was that I was given enough attention.we made up and everything was OK,and honestly I tried to change my ways and gave her all the attention she wanted and longed for.I later found out she was see another guy a guy she knew before she meet me(they were friends).So I asked her to chose between myself and the other guy she said she could not,I asked her what she wanted and she said she did not know what she wanted,that she needed time for herself to know what she wants I tried to change her mind that the space is not required but she refuses.saying that she must have the space.Honest I would give her the space but am scared that I loss her cause the other guy is still there.I lost out in my last relationship the same way.I really,really love this girl and want to keep her.please somebody please help me I want the best for her and also don't want to loose her please help me on what to do.

[Wondergirl]

The tighter you hold on to her, the harder she will push you away.

Give her space. Get busy with other things in your life. Date other women. Hopefully, she will miss you and will pull you back into her life. (But by then, you may have found someone else!)

[talaniman]

Dude you have no choice but to give her what she aked for, and get on with your life. Do not contact her, and disappear from her life. She is totally confused, and in another world, and any pressure from you will drive her further away. Sorry.

[Ash123]

Choices:

1) call her and tell her you miss her and want to talk (90% chance of failure)
2) text her you miss her and want to talk (90% chance of failure)
3) go silent... if this was your first break and no one else involved (60% chance she'd contact)
4) go silent (there is someone else involved) 40% chance she'll contact you.

Odds are not favorable (even by my rough/estimated math) but doing nothing is best...
She sounds immature... you are going to be OK, if you cut ties for now and start from scratch... oh, and if she was right about the attention, maybe pay a little more to your next - but not too much - young girls want to run free...

Look at this for now:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...sh-114179.html

[acaringsoul]

Well I am not the best at being in a relationships but I do remember when I was younger and I asked this guy for space. He would not give me space. He would come up to my work unexpectantly. Call me eatleast 5 times a day. Follow me in his car and just show up where I was. Wow it was crazy. It made me feel very uncomfortable. If you really love someone set them free. If come back they were meant to be. I do not know all the details but If she is asking for space. Give it to her. Remain her friend. Being friends is better than her totally cutting you off until she makes up her mind.

[Jiser]

Cut her off! Go no contact and give her what she wants. Give her a reality check.

[jasonpeace]

Dude, if a girl asks for space chances are she is ready to move on.
Sorry dude...

[mazeman]

I thank you all.I agree with you totally a part of me just wants to end it all and move on while another part want to wait it out but check what happened to day.I did not call her the whole of yesterday you.I saw her today on her way to lunch (am a consultant in her building) she said we should talk to we went to my office and talked as if there was no problem at all we hogged and kissed as if we never had any problems.but the other guy is still there she has said nothing about the guy.cause when we were together her phone rang and when she picked up I could tall it was him from her response.I really got upset but did not show it.I have asked her to chose but she saids she cannot that she don't want to.I think she is really confused and needs to clear her head but the guy is still there talking and she is listening.truth I just want to walk away.cause I think is all crap,but you know what I love soso much,soso much

[Wondergirl]

Well, do you want to continue to ride on this emotional rollercoaster? It will be fun sometimes (but only "sometimes"), always exciting with new (good or bad) adventures around each turn, and your heart will be thrown around and bumped about as long as you are in the same rollercoaster car she's in.

She told you she can't choose, that the rollercoaster ride will keep going maybe endlessly (because if it's not THIS guy, it will be another one).

Let us know if you get tired of rollercoasters and want to try the Tunnel of Love ride with someone else.

[talaniman]

She is not confused, she is doing what she wants her way, and if you can't keep up, your out. Make up your mind what you want, and get busy doing it, or be sooooooo in love, and share her with another.

[s_cianci]

Give her the space she says she needs and move on with your life. Let her see that you can be totally content and happy without her.

[Chery]

The only advice I can give when 'space' is asked for in any relationship is: Give the Space!

We all have fear of rejection and want to hold on to things and people, but this is not realistic.

Once you are aware of this, you will learn how to accept it and you might be surprised if you do give someone a break, or space, they will realize that you are the right one.

We all need time to ponder and don't like clingers to interfere with the time we need.

Even if she chooses the other guy, you'll be better off because you let something go that - in the long run would have left you one way or the other.


It's not a good idea to make anyone else the center of your universe - it riuns the normal orbit of letting you find yourself.

[margarita_momma]

I have to agree with Talaniman. It sounds to me like she is just leading you on. Maybe keeping you on the side just in case things don't work out for her and the other guy. Don't fall for this hon. If she really cared about you, she wouldn't be seeing someone else. She would be taking the space that she says she needs. Move on and find someone that won't cause you so much heartache. You will be so much better off in the long run. Good luck!