[Ash123]

Nope, No cruise.

In this case, I think it's safe to say it will not be The Love Boat.

Hang in there Jeremy... good Karma coming your way.

[snotbubble]

Aw, no - don't leave her! Just give her time to pay off her bills. Just let her get caught up. Debt is so stressful. When she is financially stable then ask for her to lay off on her hours at work. I'm sure she is worried about how you feel, which is making it more stressful. And if she is taking you on a cruise she is obviously trying. Please just be patient. You can't just leave a marriage like that. The few months of loneliness will pass once she is caught up, please stick with her no matter how the cruise goes.

[jeremy4719]

aw, no - don't leave her! just give her time to pay off her bills. just let her get caught up. debt is so stressful. when she is financially stable then ask for her to lay off on her hours at work. i'm sure she is worried about how you feel, which is making it more stressful. and if she is taking you on a cruise she is obviously trying. please just be patient. you can't just leave a marriage like that. the few months of loneliness will pass once she is caught up, please stick with her no matter how the cruise goes.

Did you read my post? Everyone else did... LOL...

We broke up... She initiated it... She isn't "taking me" on a cruise... I paid for the cruise...


Thanks everyone else for your comments... It's hard to move on from someone your heart loves, but your head doesn't...

[Ash123]

Karma.

Stand by.

It's coming...

[jeremy4719]

Karma Eh? I could use a little of any form of good luck... I'd take a flying carpet right now (atleast I could make save on air fair)... ha.

[DazzaB]

Hang in there fella.

[talaniman]

You both are two different people and from reading all your posts very incompatible. No ones fault really you both had unmet expectations, and conflicting styles you couldn't make work, is all and that happens.

[chuff]

"snotbubble disagrees: this is beyond poor advice"

snotbubble has deemed my advice poor and ironically enough used the very same words that I used after I said her advice was not helpful. I believe that makes her rating out of revenge as opposed to common sense which, of course, she has none, and also goes against the rules of this very here website. So does calling you a moron... but what the hell, you broke the rules first.

So snot if you read the original post and then read the posts in order (what a concept) you will see that by the time you wiped you nose and posted you idiotic thoughts the relationship was over, and it was a decision she made. So now you post this rambling about how he should hold out for her which really made no sense. I stand behind my rating that it was poor advice you gave because... well it was actually worse then poor, it was moronic given what had already happened.

Please tell us though, why you thought my advice was poor when, given the information I had, I said hold out for the cruise. In fact, you said the same thing... only after he'd been dumped. Please do explain yourself and your amazing logic. I, and the others who look to benefit from your clear thinking advice await your explanation.

[Redhead1]

She's losing interest and doesn't know how to say it. Go on the cruise and see what happens. It's sounds like a losing situtation and you need to get out and see other women who will value you more.

[jeremy4719]

I'm debating on whether to go on the cruise (leaves Aug.25)... I don't know what I should do really... I've had more people suggest that I eat the money I paid for it and cut out the chance that I'll be bummed out and bothered by knowing we are there together and that it was meant for us, but now there is no us... I'm thinking about just trying to put together a cheap trip or idea to enjoy a week possibly... I still don't know though what I want to do darn it!

[blueyedStrm]

If she's working so much to pay those bills then let her do her thing. Go on vacation and observe how she acts and mention how all this time apart has made you feel w/o threatening the relationship, see how she reacts... maybe she's so caught up into being busy she doesn't realize how it is affecting you... once she knows where you're coming from and things still don't change then definitely take a step back and think about your next move.

[acaringsoul]

That is too bad. That she is gone all the time. Atl.east she calls you every night. Maybe she can look for a different Job where she doesn't have to travel so much? Have you talked to her yet and expressed to her the way that you are feeling? If yes what did she say. Is she making promises to stop working so much or find a different Job. If yes how long ago was this.

[GlindaofOz]

I'm debating on whether to go on the cruise (leaves Aug.25)...... I don't know what I should do really.... I've had more people suggest that I eat the money I paid for it and cut out the chance that i'll be bummed out and bothered by knowing we are there together and that it was ment for us, but now there is no us.... I'm thinking about just trying to put together a cheap trip or idea to enjoy a week possibly... I still don't know though what I want to do darn it!

I think your thought pattern here is spot on. If nothing else you could at the very least go out that weekend with buddies and have a few pints and few laughs. No need to mope or throw a pity party, right?