[Looking_for_the_one]

I have been single for a while. It would be nice to have a relationship but in the past I have settled for someone I thought was right for me but seems I just settled for what was available.

How do I build myself esteem, enjoy being single but still be open to a relationship when all the decent (normal men) seem disinterested? It really kills the self esteem.

[sGt HarDKorE]

Hmm when my self-esteem gets low, I buy everything I like such as clothes and I enjoy looking good in them. You need to tell yourself the good things about you. I know how you feel and I know this is easier said than done, as I have low self-esteem too.

[rankrank55]

There are men out there, you just have to be at the right place at the right time. Word of advice: men at bars and clubs... not a good idea. There are a lot of things you can do to increase you self-esteem. Do some self love exercises by telling yourself something good about you every night before you go to bed. You honestly have to learn to love yourself and highlight on all of the positives. Take advantage of your single time... might as well make the best of it until you DO find the right guy! Along with self-esteem comes confidence and with confidence comes guys... they are attracted to it. Always smile, it makes you look beautiful even if you have a huge zit on your face, and walk around like you own everything! Let your inner beauty shine for those guys out there!

[Looking_for_the_one]

I am a happy person. I had given up for a while but decided to give it another go. Ok be confident rankrank 55 says men love it. So I will try that. Fingers crossed.

[rankrank55]

Good luck! Confidence is key!

[kp2171]

Well, I've stated before that in my own experience it was always feast or famine... either there was nobody id want to date or whod date me... or there were several girls I wanted to chase. Not always, but enough to annoy me... a little more spread out wouldve been fine...

And yes, personally, I've always been attracted to and dated women who were strong and assertive...

But in the end you need to be you...

Sometimes, for no damn good reason, there isn't anyone around who will pay us any attention. And the suddenly it all changes.

Stupid, silly life.

[thadevilsadvocate]

how do you build yourself esteem? Don't waste your money on clothes and material things... those will have very little value over time... invest all the money you have to spare in a safe investment... this will guarantee you a fair amount of money in the near future... and trust me, that will boost yourself esteem, and I don't know a person in the world that wouldn't be appealed to someone that has their mind in the right direction... but if you are not concerned about boosting your financial self eseteem... then you should just work on becoming the person you want to be. Don't over work yourself on trying to find guys... they are definitely interested, and trust me, as long as you are taking care of yourself and you are working towards your goals, in a period, you will have to be more concerned about the number of guys coming after you rather than the lack there of... simply because you will have demonstrated hat you can take care of yourself... and that is appealing to a guy... and being a guy myself, I can attest to the fact that it is nice to know when a woman can take care of herself.

[nicespringgirl]

Being single while being strong, assertive and wise. You can do it!
A relationship is not everything, you can have a life filled with successful career and wonderful friendship with people.
Don't be hating, all we need is love, but love can be at many levels. One day I went to the nursing home with fresh flowers, I spread my love to the elders and they loved my flowers and my smile... I realize how wonderful life is! :)

[GlindaofOz]

Just enjoy it, that's the best advice I can give. Don't compare your life to what other people have going on. I'm single and I have girlfriends who have boyfriends and fiancées and that's great for them but we all have different standards in this world and different things that we want.

Enjoy yourself. Enjoy getting to know who you are and really loving yourself. You cannot have a meaningful relationship with anyone else until you have one with yourself. You have to love yourself in order for other people to love you. Take some time, do things you love do things that make you happy. Try to do things by yourself it will feel awkward at first but after a while it won't be a big deal. I can even go to dinner by myself on a Saturday now!

[Jiser]

Being single, strong and happy in yourself and your own life is very attractive! I would rather be in that than an unhappy relationship. Sometimes a relationship can seem more of a drag!

[Looking_for_the_one]

I enjoy my life but would like someone to share it with. I enjoy my own company but getting a little tired of doing it all alone.