[jgusa]

Hi I am a mother of 3 children my oldest is 7, 6 , youngest is 4. I was with there dad for 6 years almost 7 never married. But he went to prison in 2003 when my youngest was 6 or months old. In the 6 years we were together he hit me and chocked me and killed my sons puppy that was maybe 2 months old at the lake in front of my son. We never had a place to stay. He would never work. So we never had money until he started stealing or selling drugs. Eery time I tried to get away he would find me and tell me he would kill me if I didn't come back to him so I would. Well any ways he went to prison ant I finally got away and stayed away. I have been away from him for 4 years now. But my question is I want him to give up his right as a father I don't want him around my kids. I have a boyfriend and he love them very much. There father has not tried to come around to see them or anything since he has been out of prison. He is on 2 of the kids birth certificates but not on the youngest one. So how do I do this and can I ask for him to give up his rights?

[J_9]

I am happy that you have chosen to begin to stop the circle of violence. It is important that your children be raised in a healthy environment.

Now, what you need to do, is contact a family law attorney. Your ex will have to voluntarily give up is rights to your children. Now, this does not mean that he will not be responsible for them as far as finances are concerned, he will still have to pay child support unless adoption is pending.

All giving up your rights means is that he will no longer have the option or the right to decide about how they are raised, medical treatment, etc.

A family law attorney is your best bet.