Think about why his parents won't pay for his college if he's married. They don't feel he's ready. As well as you know him, they know him even better in some ways (not all, but some). They want him to have this time to focus on his education and starting his career, and to have an unrushed progression in life - to marry when he's educationally and financially ready to take on that commitment.
They want him to marry someone else who has had the good sense to do the same - get a college education, get financially settled, have an opportunity to settle into being an adult, and then move into marriage without creating family upset on either side.
Marriage lasts a lifetime - you can date exclusively in the meantime and learn even more about one another. Take the years until he is ready to learn the key things about each other that will contribute to a successful marriage - consider getting counseling from your church to determine if you are in agreement on things enough to continue on the path toward marriage, and if not, take this time to work on those issues and see if you can resolve them. Learn how to manage money separately and together. Make sure you both have the means to support yourselves, that you both have reliable cars and homes, and so on. If you do this before you are married, you will protect the success of the marriage because these are the issues that typically cause divorces - even among people who love one another. YOu would be surprised how many people love their ex-spouses but because of these issues would never consider being married ot them again!
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