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    UnwantedHero Posts: 99, Reputation: 8
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    Jul 10, 2007, 07:54 AM
    How too get over someone when no contact isn't posible?
    Short story:one of my good mates broke up with girlfriend.They have most of the same classes at uni together and they have jobs in which they may see each other up to three times a week for about an hour.He asked me for advice but because I've never been in that situation before I couldn't really help him other then just telling him to only talk to her if its regarding work.Does anyone have any advice on which I would be able to tell him and help him get over this breakup since he sees her all the time?

    P.S.No contact isn't possible.He can't get classes changed and work won't move either of the two.
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    Jul 10, 2007, 08:07 AM
    This is a really difficult one... and I guess much of it will depend upon the intensity of the relationship, their ages, the time they were together and how it ended.

    No contact at all is the best way but obviously is not possible in this situation.
    No verbal contact is however possible.

    Again it all depends on my first sentence as to how easy this will be - time heals most things...
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    Jul 10, 2007, 08:16 AM
    Yea that's true well it was three years and there both 23 now.From what he's told me and from what a few of us saw it seemed very intense.I know for a fact he was thinking of popping the question too her within the end of the year for her birthday November 24.No one for sure knows why it happened but she told him she needed time and space and all that bull@#t crap that girls have been known to fill guys heads with.
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    Jul 10, 2007, 10:37 AM
    Well the time and space thing is a polite way of saying that it is over, while leaving the door open just in case. I suspect from experience that he will have met somebody else...

    The best way for her to deal with this is to put as much distance between him as possible. By doing so he may find that he misses her and in the meantime she will just feel gradually better - very gradually.

    I would suggest she has something planned to say if he does make contact - such as ' I am giving you the time and space you have asked for and respect your choice for that space'. Do not show emotion. Communication is unlikely to be productive unless he chooses to insitigate in - in which case she needs to keep her cool - big time.
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