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halfpint27 · May 17, 2007, 01:26 PM

When me and my husband have sex I freak out if we get in poshion that's uncomfurtadle or painfull to me or if he's on top and gets to close to were I can't see nothing but skin he likes to make it were I can't move sometimes I freak out when he does that to and he likes anele sex to that makes me freak out to. I want to please him bacouse I love him very much we've been together for 9 years married for 7 in October of this year I really freak bad I start cryingand tell to stop and get off me like he's raping me and he's not bacouse I gave it to him welingle he thinks it might have something to do with som thing that happened to me when I was 8 years old you see my school made my mom take me to a psycietrest when I was 8 bacouse I had ADHD and the psycietrest got sent to preson for mulesting his female patints my mom and dad sure if he mulessted me or not bacouse I can't rember nothing but at bthe end of the session I was laying on the floor and he was laying on the other side and there was a checkerd bord in between us they think he druged my hot cholecte that's why I don't remamder pluse they watched him make it and something looked funny to them could this be why I freak out so much in bed? And should I see a theripest?? Please help ASAP it's rurning my sex life with my husdand.

kanicky73 · May 17, 2007, 01:29 PM

Sweetheart... Run to a therapist!! I don't mean that jokingly at all, you need some professional therapy and you should not wait.

nymphetamine · May 17, 2007, 01:32 PM

Yes talk to a therapist. I wonder if going to someone that deals with hypnosis wouldn't help to dig into your memories so you can get to the bottom of this whole thing. If your husband loves you then he will understand not to do those things that make you react in such away. There are other things you can do besides that. Speak to your husband.

Xrayman · May 17, 2007, 06:36 PM

Agreed. You need help.

I'd suggest that there are flashbacks appearing to you, from your sub-conciousness-perhaps the best option is a trusted psychologist.

p.s. my wife has/had similar issues, it was the result of a repressed sexual attack/s in her childhood.

Nasty stuff-it can really help if you inform your husband of what the real deal is with you first, then see a psych.

Cheers

smoothy · May 18, 2007, 05:22 AM

I agree, get professional help. They can help you with whatever problems you may have. In the mean time try to do the woman on top position where you have the control and won't be feeling smothered or controlled. (plus most guys love it) That will work with anal as well and keep both of you happy while you work through your other problems.