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shelly03 · May 13, 2007, 07:09 AM

Just happened to come across this site and thought I need to write a post here I've been married 7yrs been with for 10yrs in total. About 2yrs ago I found out that he liked dressing up in woman's thing e.g. stockings,thongs, and woman's shoes. I found this very sickening since then I've cheated on him a few times as I'm not happy we have 4 lovely kids my eldest is from a previous relationship. Last year we decided on an openrelationship but he was dressing up in the house while I was out and I was scared in case the kids caught him, I said I wanted him to move out so he went to see his parents to see if he could stop there they asked what was wrong and ov course he didn't tell them the truth about he likes dressing up he just said we wasn't getting on well because we could never go out as a family because we only had a small car his parents where upset so they offered us some money to get a bigger car so we decided to give our marriage another go but I don't love him anymore I was just kiiding myself that things could work, 3wks ago I decided I what the open relationship bk but I feel I'm wasting my life away been with him but he makes it so hard to talk to him. Any advice would be gratful

Missdrei · May 13, 2007, 07:11 AM

Are u from Georgia?

shelly03 · May 13, 2007, 07:12 AM

No I'm not from Georgia. Uk

Missdrei · May 13, 2007, 07:17 AM

Im sorry, your situationis vey similar to one of a person I know here in the USA.
And as I told her, if he loves and respects you, then nothing hsould change. But if he walking around dressed like so,in front of the kids and it makes you unconfy.. then you should walk, and fast. I would not sit anround, I did not meet him like that, so why should I have to deal with it.
Alone is not so bad, besides you have your 4 beautiful kids.. nothing elese should matter

talaniman · May 13, 2007, 07:38 AM

Despite your differences now, the best thing would be to talk and find out what to do with this marriage. An open marriage where you can have other men, is not a healthy solution and puts your kids at risk to bad behaviour that may be as damaging as your husbands cross dressing dilemma. I get your disgust, and am sure of his also. If you cannot communicate, and work for a reasonable solution, then you have no relationship, and should not be thinking one of you is any better than the other. What can you both do for your children, is the question to be answered. The rest is your husbands and yours personnel problem. Maybe you should both seek a professional, to guide you through the process of figuring out what is best for your kids.

paulmason · May 17, 2007, 12:41 PM

Hiya, my wife and I are in an open relationship, it works really well for us,we have 3 children who we both love very very much and we are always there for each other and the children. My advice would be don't break the family unit, if the open thing works for you then live your life as you want and don't let others dictate what you should and shouldn't be doing, we only get one go at it so why not enjoy yourself as you all please. As for the crossdressing thing agree he does it on his time out of the house and nowhere near the kids especially if they are young. Ps a lot of advice on here is influenced by religion and what it dictates, in my opinion don't let religion rule your life it doesent always put you in the right direction. God has never paid my bills.

talaniman · May 17, 2007, 02:06 PM

Mr. Mason I agree that they can do as they please, but the only thing is they disagree as to what it is they want to do, and must work together, or it will not make either happy.