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bigballen-2 · May 4, 2007, 01:23 PM

Hello my name is B.A. and I need help with my relationship I knew and been going out with my girlfriend since 2004 I met her online and still talk to her online the girl has seizures real bad it we fight constantly she's never home online to spend time with me she's always riding or going places with her momma then when she is online she ignores me I have been very good to this women I have put her name on my space page SHE REALLY DOESN'T APPRIECATE IT, I Don't KNOW IF I SHOULD STAY WITH HER, OR LET HER GO, PLEASE HELP

kanicky73 · May 4, 2007, 01:30 PM

Wait I am confused. Have you ever met this girl in person? Or is this strictly an internet relationship? If it is your kind of being ridiculous. Wouldn't you rather have a relationship with someone you can see?

J_9 · May 4, 2007, 01:30 PM

This sounds like a long-distance relationship am I right?

Also, your ages? Are you young?

I think it is time to cut your losses, she does not seem as interested in you as you are in her.

chuff · May 4, 2007, 01:35 PM

How old are you?

bigballen-2 · May 4, 2007, 01:43 PM

I'm 26 she's 32 she alsos stays with her mom and have seziures

kanicky73 · May 4, 2007, 01:46 PM

Sweetie, stop and think about this for a second. You have yourself all upset over someone you have never met in person before. Unless she carries her computer around with her on her hip, your going to have times when she is not available online. You never did answer that question whether you have ever met her in person or not.

bigballen-2 · May 4, 2007, 01:47 PM

See this is what she wrote me last night

Why don't you love me and you don't want me no more I only reasin I cam on this acount to get rive of my space I am gping tp delete it soon oh buy the way how did you get my EMAIL ADDRESS HAS BEEN DELETED, please tell me

Is she for real or is this a game

shygrneyzs · May 4, 2007, 01:49 PM

Drop the relationship and find someone who you can actually hold hands with once in awhile. You are upset this girl is never at home, hard to get ahold og, etc. Then WHY pursue this? You say you both fight quite a bit. You have answered your own question in every sentence you have posted.

Please do yourself the very big favor and let this girl go her own way and you go yours. That would be a healthy decision. Good luck.

bigballen-2 · May 4, 2007, 01:49 PM

Yes it's a internet relationship yes I seen her on webcam yes I talked to her on the phone I don't understand why this woman putting me through this I got a divorce a year ago to be with this woman p[please help me

shygrneyzs · May 4, 2007, 01:51 PM

Excuse me. You got a divorce for an online relationship? Oy vey! Sorry, but you need to shut your computer off and get back into reality.

This relationship is not going to work out for you. It just isn't.

bigballen-2 · May 4, 2007, 01:55 PM

No I never met her in person but she did give me her address and a map to her house without her mothers consent this women is slow as what I was told

shygrneyzs · May 4, 2007, 02:03 PM

You really do need to stop pursuing this woman. If she is "slow" as you have stated, her Mother may well be her guardian or conservator. If her Mother has the say so in this woman's life, you may not be the person her Mother wants around. So have you talked to her Mother? Explained yourself? Your intentions? What can you give to this woman that will provide for her security, her health, her well being (both physically and emotionally), etc.

But think if this honestly - you said that you both fight all the time, she is not around when you are around, you two cannot connect like you wish, go back and read all your words. It is a recipe for relationship disaster. You have no good foundation to build on. Do you love this woman or feel sorry for her because of her seizure disorder and mental state? Are you prepared to be her lifelong caregiver?

Call and talk to her Mother. Get the low down from the Mom, not the daughter. Maybe her Mom can provide that wake up call you need.

talaniman · May 4, 2007, 02:23 PM

Please get help for yourself, as your actions are not logical or rational, and be very careful putting private information on the public web.

chuff · May 4, 2007, 09:07 PM

I don't believe any of this.

kanicky73 · May 7, 2007, 07:54 AM

Totally agree sygrneyz! I had a feeling this was all about an internet relationship. It saddens me that the internet has gotten this out of control and people actually turn their lives around for someone that they type with! Best advice was from sygrneyz, shut the computer off!! Try having a relationship with an actual person! Because internet relationships might as well be a relationship with a computer!

sypher373 · May 7, 2007, 09:14 AM

Originally Posted by kanicky73

Totally agree sygrneyz!! I had a feeling this was all about an internet relationship. It saddens me that the internet has gotten this out of control and people actually turn their lives around for someone that they type with!! Best advice was from sygrneyz, shut the computer off!!!!! Try having a relationship with an actual person!! Because internet relationships might as well be a relationship with a computer!

... at least the computer never argues :rolleyes:

kanicky73 · May 7, 2007, 09:47 AM

Originally Posted by sypher373

....at least the computer never argues :rolleyes:

So True!!