[Gibblets]

Kk

[SameOldSituation]

It means what you think it does. She was probably a little insecure that the number might be high, but then found out it was not and is happy. Sounds like things are going quite well. I'm happy for you, man.

[SouthernBelle06]

As a woman, I have asked this question to my partners. And they have asked me as well. When a guy and I were to the point of becoming intimate, the question was a just a part of getting to know more about them and their past and the way they may relate to women (and maybe just a small part curiosity). I felt close enough to them at that point to be able to discuss anything. It seemed a question that wasn't off limits.

If the man you are getting ready to become intimate with says he has slept with only one woman as opposed to 500 (lol), it shows the woman that maybe intimacy means more to him than it does to a man that is out sleeping with everything that moves. She may base a part of her decision to become intimate with him on his answer (if the answer is an honest one). For instance, if you have slept with only one person, she might think that relationships with women mean more to you than just sex. If you have slept with 500, she may think that sex doesn't mean much to you and that she will be a one night stand and that you will drop her and move on to the next conquest. It's just a part of getting to know more about the person you are ready to become intimate with.

I agree with SameOldSituation as well. It may partially be an insecurity thing. She may feel that she might have to measure up to many women if you are extremely experienced and that you will judge her "performance" based on them. Yes, women can have performance anxiety as well when they are with a new partner... but in a totally different way of course... he he he.

[talaniman]

I think the other two posters said it all so don't give it a second thought. You should be flattered she felt comfortable and sounds like the two of you are comfortable communicating this early in the relationship.

[Gibblets]

So I guess either way it's a GOOD THING she's asking. Show's she's comfortable and considering becoming more intimate... good stuff.

It's just so weird that we've only been on 4 dates.. only know each other for 4 weeks... but we feel like it has been so much longer. Any of you ever felt this way about someone?

Sometimes I still worry about this going too fast, but it all feels natural. I guess as long as neither of us "force" anything, the speed doesn't matter?

[SameOldSituation]

I have felt that way about every one of my serious girlfriends---that's why you get along and become more serious than casual dating. I mean, after the first date, if I don't feel a connection to a girl, I rarely bother making another. Maybe a second one, but four... I would have to get along pretty well with her in order to invest that much.

And, if you get along well, you may feel like you've known her longer.

All I can say about the speed--or anything in the relationship--is, try not to worry about too much. Don't over-analyze. Take a good thing for what it is. You can work yourself into a rut of worry and insecurity by thinking too much. I did. And, while my ex was not the nicest, most caring person on the Earth, I am still partly responsible for things that happened.

Wish I could go back in time.

[Gibblets]

I have felt that way about every one of my serious girlfriends---that's why you get along and become more serious than casual dating. I mean, after the first date, if I don't feel a connection to a girl, I rarely bother making another. Maybe a second one, but four...I would have to get along pretty well with her in order to invest that much.

And, if you get along well, you may feel like you've known her longer.

All I can say about the speed--or anything in the relationship--is, try not to worry about too much. Don't over-analyze. Take a good thing for what it is. You can work yourself into a rut of worry and insecurity by thinking too much. I did. And, while my ex was not the nicest, most caring person on the Earth, I am still partly responsible for things that happened.

Wish I could go back in time.

I totally agree. Her and I both share the idea that attraction and chemistry is either there or it isn't. To both of our surprises, it was there for us. The funniest thing was that she told me she went into our first date with low expectations of me since she has had her share of dissapointments. I turned out to be a "pleasant surprise" as she puts it, and she told me she can't remember the last time she's gone on so many dates with the same guy consecutively. So I am doing good in her eyes I suppose.

After our first date, she has initiated all the others, including inviting me over for the night. This morning, when we woke up, I asked her if she'd like to come over my parents' house for dinner (since I still live with them) and she said yes.

Seems like we're headed towards a more serious relationship, but my only question is, when is it appropriate to talk about it? Ya know, the whole "so what are we doing here" talk. Am I supposed to initiate it? Is there are time frame for this?

[talaniman]

I suggest that you enjoy getting to know each other and go slow to give yourself time to be sure of your own feelings. A year is a good indicator that this can work if your both honest and forthright about your feelings. After that sky's the limit.

[Gibblets]

I suggest that you enjoy getting to know each other and go slow to give yourself time to be sure of your own feelings. A year is a good indicator that this can work if your both honest and forthright about your feelings. After that sky's the limit.

You mean we need to date casually for a year before talking about being an official couple?

[iscorpio]

Hi there, most people ask this question and probably for the same reason as suggest, is easier to know a persons personality by their habits, if you had said lots then she would probably suspect that she was just another notch so to speak and vice versa, is nice that you to are are good together and I wish you every happiness for the future, take care, love and peace anne x

[Gibblets]

Hi there, most people ask this question and probably for the same reason as suggest, is easier to know a persons personality by their habits, if you had said lots then she would probably suspect that she was just another notch so to speak and vice versa, is nice that you to are are good together and i wish you every happiness for the future, take care, love and peace anne x

Do you think it's sort of like assessing my potential as a boyfriend?

That was my other question... what are some signs or whatever women show when they are testing your quality for a potential committed relationship?

[iscorpio]

Do you think it's sort of like assessing my potential as a boyfriend?

That was my other question...what are some signs or whatever women show when they are testing your quality for a potential committed relationship?

Yes I do and I also think that she feels comfortable with your answer that you gave her as do you hers, she is just assuring herself that you are not the kind of person to want to hop off with someone else, she wants to make sure that you won't hurt her and you have done exactly the same thing, you want to make sure that she will not hurt you, I hope you will be really happy together. Take care, love and peace anne x

[ceriphante]

See guys I totally disagree with you, I'd never ask a potential g/f this question as I simply believe that people change over time and a lot of what we go through is about learning, as a result I'd also refuse to answer this question or I'd casually smile and say 'oh a billion'..

See I have a friend who's partner has had over 70 gals and it really messes with her she keeps thinking about it and can't shake it and it seriously impacts negatively on their relationship, when it shouldn't have any bearing on it. A serious relationship should be about the here and now and what's to come versus the total of notches on your bed belt... or the insecurity that it can create..

[ceriphante]

kk

Oh and it also means she likes you :P