[Clou55]

What does he mean by telling me that? No permanent commitment ?

[Fr_Chuck]

Sounds more like a friends with benefit, you can be together when convenient, supply his sexual needs, and he does not have to share any duties or responsibilities.

Not even a girlfriend, so I doubt he is your boyfriend, since he does not see you that way.

[Alty]

I'm married to my best friend and lover, been together for 25 years now. If you're not friends first, then there's no relationship. If you're not compatible in bed, again no relationship. Sounds to me like he's serious about what you two have.

But who knows? Not us. Only he knows what he meant by what he said. Why not ask him?

[talaniman]

How long have you been seeing each other? What was your response when he told you this. How is this relationship so far? Have either of you been married before?

I am sure you have an idea of what he means by his statement.

[joypulv]

This all goes back to your definition of boyfriend... to me a boyfriend is a best friend who makes my heart beat faster, followed by all that and lover too - exclusive lover.

You need a good dose of self-examination and an even bigger dose of learning how to talk to him. You and he are the ONLY two people out of 7 billion people who can answer it.

[Cat1864]

Without knowing any basic information such as how long you have been dating and how intimate your relationship currently is, I would have to say that this is a good time to practice communications skills. Each person has their own way of expressing their feelings, thoughts, needs and desires. If you do not understand what he is trying to say, ask for clarification.

It is better to ask him to explain what he wants than to guess and perhaps leap to the wrong conclusion.

What do you want? For the relationship? Your future? You need to think about your own needs and desires so you can communicate them to him. Together decide if you want enough of the same things to build a relationship or if you should part now before positive feelings turn negative.

One major caution, talk with him. It should be a discussion. Try not to allow your concerns to cause you to be aggressive or confrontational. You do not want either of you becoming defensive. People tend to not communicate as clearly as they should with the other person when they feel confronted or attacked.

[smoothy]

To me he wants a booty call... a friend with benefits... but none of the obligations of a wife.