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marthasegura · Sep 23, 2015, 08:06 AM

Okay so I just got this job not too long ago and the guy who counts the cash registers is way younger than me and already has a girlfriend.
Ever since I started working there he has shown signs of possible flirting he would ask me questions about me, like what music I like,what school I go too, if I had a boyfriend..
I told him that my priorities right now,whee not to have a boyfriend but to finish my career.
Another thing he did was tell me all this personal problems he was having with his gfs parents. Like if he had a lot of trust on me.
something weird i noticed, was that one day he calle all the coworkers for a meeting and i noticed he kept staring me at my eyes without even looking at the other girls that were beside me,as if we were the only ones in that room it was pretty weird. also i sense he tries to have an excuse to have more time with me in some cases where im in lunch break, he would go where i am and like talk to me. or even ask me...what i brought him to eat.

All of a sudden I have noticed he has been avoiding me, does not come to work when I do. I mean he makes the schedules, so if he liked me he would like try to see me as much as possible right!
So I'm like confused right now yesterday this coworker told me he told her he wasn't coming to the store anymore since he's the one that is in charge of two stores that are not from great distance apart.

talaniman · Sep 23, 2015, 08:11 AM

I think you have mistaken his questions, and friendly attention for notions of romance. You need to leave that idea that he wants you for a girlfriend alone.

marthasegura · Sep 23, 2015, 08:23 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

I think you have mistaken his questions, and friendly attention for notions of romance. You need to leave that idea that he wants you for a girlfriend alone.

Then why send me wrong signs

smoothy · Sep 23, 2015, 08:25 AM

I will second what talaniman said... I see a guy that was just being friendly that you misinterpreted, nothing more. Unless you said something significantly more personal you left out in which case he might be avoiding an awkward situation.

marthasegura · Sep 23, 2015, 08:30 AM

Originally Posted by smoothy

I will second what talaniman said... I see a guy that was just being friendly that you misinterpreted, nothing more. Unless you said something significantly more personal you left out in which case he might be avoiding an awkward situation.

Something weird I noticed, was that one day he calle all the coworkers for a meeting and I noticed he kept staring me at my eyes without even looking at the other girls that were beside me,as if we were the only ones in that room it was pretty weird. Also I sense he tries to have an excuse to have more time with me in some cases where I'm in lunch break, he would go where I am and like talk to me. Or even ask me... what I brought him to eat.

talaniman · Sep 23, 2015, 08:38 AM

It might not be him sending those signals, maybe its you wanting to receive them that way. Regardless you shouldn't put so much importance on them and obsess about romance, since you simply don't know what's on his mind do you?

So don't assume about "SIGNALS". Ignore them for your own good, until you get a lot more FACTS, and not just feelings.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 23, 2015, 04:50 PM

Maybe he was sending signals but has realized his job position and girlfriend is more important.
Forget about this and work your career. His reasons should be immaterial to you. Besides he has a girlfriend so what is the point?

marthasegura · Sep 24, 2015, 06:42 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Maybe he was sending signals but has realized his job position and girlfriend is more important.
Forget about this and work your career. His reasons should be immaterial to you. Besides he has a girlfriend so what is the point?

Yeah your right I'm just going to forget about him, I'm not going to ruin a relationship!
Everything happens for a reason.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 24, 2015, 07:25 AM

Originally Posted by marthasegura

Yeah your right I'm just going to forget about him, I'm not going to ruin a relationship!
Everything happens for a reason.

Good thinking.
I wish you well

Jake2008 · Sep 24, 2015, 08:10 PM

He has a girlfriend, so butt out. I doubt that you didn't flirt back with him, and it is curious that you are wondering suddenly why he isn't around, and you've gossiped about him to another co-worker, and wondering what all the flirting was about.

It is really terrible to entertain another woman's man, the way you are. It's called stabbing someone in the back.

Leave him alone.