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    Jul 18, 2015, 10:09 PM
    Should I pursue a relationship with a girl I met at a college program?
    So this past week I was in a college program for two weeks and there was a really cute girl there that I just knew was perfect from the get go. We started talking and getting to know each other, found out she loves video games and drawing same as me. Throughout the first week we got to know each other pretty well so I figured why not tell her that I like her, I wrote a letter for her about how I felt but I got scared and didn't give it to her but I said screw it and told her straight up. Then she started blushing and told me that she liked me too. The weird thing is after that she seemed kind of distant towards me, she wasn't talking as much but around others she would. She texted me and said she was confused with her emotions but that she still likes me. It was pretty much like that the rest of the program. Good thing is that she happened to live in the same city as me and I have her number, but should I still try and make it work? I'm confused why she acted so distant from me.
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    Jul 19, 2015, 03:47 AM
    What age are you? Sounds Jr. High, not college. You do not "tell someone" how you feel, if you like them, you just start talking, get to know them, perhaps ask them out. You get their Facebook, phone number, or QQ information.

    You are moving way to fast, telling someone about feelings, when you have just meet. Those are "lust" feelings, and real feelings comes after weeks or months of talking and chatting.

    Next there is nothing to "make work" at this point, but you can see if she wants to text, chat, or message. And perhaps try and get to know her
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    Jul 19, 2015, 05:04 AM
    You don't "make it work", you follow through so she can see that your words and action match over time. You have her number, so FOLLOW THROUGH, and see if there is something there besides lust of the first attraction that can work.

    Surely you don't think she will make it easy for you to jump into a quick hot romance do you? She doesn't know you, but just like you caught up in this beginning crush. She gave you her number, use it, don't abuse it.

    Convince her you are worth dating and get to know each other better.

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