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Kezzy5 · Mar 21, 2015, 09:34 AM

I can't seem to meet people like physically and mentally. Especially boys this guy I have been talking too and he is generally positive wants the best out of life, got a good job and he is lovely but I'm too nervous to meet him or anyone in general what can I do to overcome this?

Thanks.

talaniman · Mar 21, 2015, 09:54 AM

Everyone is nervous doing things that they normally have not done a lot of, but you can just forge ahead, and do it anyway, nervous,or not, and probably make mistakes, and goofs, along the way like we all do. You learn and get better at anything with practice, and experience.

You seem to have met already, so what's the problem except being nervous about it? Where did you meet?

Kezzy5 · Mar 21, 2015, 12:02 PM

I haven't meet him yet have only been talking through text.

tickle · Mar 21, 2015, 12:11 PM

You have every right to be nervous meeting him. You can't really get a handle on what he is like just from texting. He can say anything he wants to to get your attention and make it sound attractive.

How did he get your number ? Did someone give it to him ?

Be very careful here Kezzy. He could be an older man, a woman, a stalker...

Kezzy5 · Mar 21, 2015, 12:17 PM

I have him on Facebook and we exchanged numbers through there, and I have seen him for a second as we were going different ways in town.

talaniman · Mar 21, 2015, 12:20 PM

I would be nervous too, with such a stranger, and maybe it's wise to learn a lot more, and be extra cautious, since you don't have a clue if he is what he says he is, or has good intentions.

Maye your nervousness is warning you not to be naïve, or foolish with this, or any stranger. How old is he, and how did you become text buddies?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...uy-808419.html

I can only remind you of this thread with the 22 year old and hope he isn't the same guy. That would be foolish to still be texting HIM.

Kezzy5 · Mar 21, 2015, 12:32 PM

No it's a different guy, and we had a slight disagreement with each other that's how we noticed each other on fb, then we had fun annoying each other, then we started talking, and he is his who he say he is as my friend as breathily been in contact with him awhile ago.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 21, 2015, 02:56 PM

How long have you been talking to him? Just keep texting and maybe talking on the phone until you feel comfortable. Has he talked about meeting you?

J_9 · Mar 21, 2015, 03:37 PM

Kezzy, you need to deal with your other issues (eating disorders) before complicating your life even more by adding boys into the mix.

Kezzy5 · Mar 21, 2015, 03:46 PM

Yeah that's a good Idea, as we have been talking for a few days. And yeah he wanted to meet tomorrow.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 21, 2015, 04:52 PM

How old are the two of you? If you meet him, meet someplace very public.

Kezzy5 · Mar 22, 2015, 01:28 AM

I'm 16 and he is 20 and we were planning on going cinema or the beach.

J_9 · Mar 22, 2015, 02:16 AM

Oh, goodness child! What is a man his age wanting to date a girl your age? No. Stay away from him. He has one thing on his mind and one thing only. He isn't after you for your mind, he is after you for your body!

A 20 year old man has nothing in common with a 16 year old child, except maybe raging hormones.

Kezzy5 · Mar 22, 2015, 03:24 AM

Okay.

J_9 · Mar 22, 2015, 04:28 AM

You are probably flattered and a little excited that a 20 year old is interested in you. That's understandable. However, the two of you have nothing in common.

20 year old men are interested in 16 year old girls because they know that they will be able to flatter you and make you feel special with the sole intention of getting in your pants. You will not be a serious girlfriend, but another notch on his bedpost.

This man is a pedophile. Do not ever meet him in person.

talaniman · Mar 22, 2015, 05:47 AM

What's up with you and older guys? No wonder you are nervous about meeting. You should be. You should NOT be meeting older guys PERIOD!! You should not even be thinking of it without the guidance of your parents or guardians at ALL.

If you have "friends" influencing you to do so, then you better think twice before you go along with this kind of peer pressure. No wonder your life is so wacky since you are focused on the wrong things. Older guys shouldn't be one of the things you should be involved with right now, even though you think you are ready to handle it.

Are you listening to your hormones and feelings, instead of your brains? Of course you are. That's what females your age without Good Orderly Direction do. That's why you think it's a good idea to even be texting an older guy who wants to meet you. I suppose it feels good on some level, to have attention from an ADULT male, but is it smart? Hell NO it's NOT! If he cannot meet you at YOUR home, then its not okay to meet AT ALL!!

That should apply for ANY male you may want to get to know better at your age. Trust me all you are to older males and most YOUR AGE is an object to be obtained and played with.

THINK before you act.

J_9 · Mar 22, 2015, 06:51 AM

Kezzy, I've reviewed some of you other questions. In December you asked if you could be pregnant, then you asked about the pill. It appears that you are promiscuous. You seem to have sex without being in a committed relationship. You do realize what that labels you as, don't you?

This 20 year old wants to get in your pants because, most likely, he knows that you will give it up to almost anyone who wants it. Is that the reputation you want out of life?

Kezzy5 · Mar 22, 2015, 07:02 AM

I was in a relationship when I got pregnant, but we spilt up short after and I see where your coming from as it clearly wasn't a committed relationship. And I have only slept with one guy which was the one I was with so I'm not some slut. And yeah I am hearing what you are saying but he doesn't seem even remotely interested in sex as all we talk about is my college, his work, other stuff in genral, I don't know one guy that's seems be so positive like he does. He just seems really different. And I went on the pill mostly to sort my periods out as they were very Irregular.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 22, 2015, 07:23 AM

There is no good reason a 20 year old should be talking to a 16 year old. He knows what to say to you to get you interested and feel safe.
He is after one thing. Do not go out with this guy and stop talking to him.
He should not be interested in you at your age. There is nothing in common.

Kezzy5 · Mar 22, 2015, 08:16 AM

Okay thanks.