[taylorhobbsx]

Hello everyone, please please answer this and help me! I really just want to get over my ex once and for all or really just know everyone's opinion from a non bias perspective. I would appreciate it so so much if I could get some answers. So...

My ex and I broke up around 4-5 months ago. But I am still not over him at all. I really loved him so much, we dated for around a month and a bit but flirted for the whole year beforehand, so pretty much dated all that time. I had previously dated one of his close mates (for a year) then broke it off with him, and immediately me and my ex started flirting and what not. I reckon I was definitely the one in the relationship who liked him more, rather than him liking me. In our flirting stage, it was obvious he liked me I guess but he was sooo shy in person (I guess just his personality), but soon he asked me out and of course I said yes.

However, I reckon ever since he asked me out it all went down hill from there, I guess there was no chase anymore and that's what made it a bit boring. Adding to this, he would never want to hang with me at school as I bet he felt awkward as his mate dated me before hand and apparently his mates gave him for dating me, so I guess I can't blame him. Anyhow, apparently he labeled our relationship as an 'online relo' but I tried so hard to not make it that, by wanting to hang at school but he wouldn't want to. Anyway, a gathering came up for him and he did not plus one me to this - this of course made me a little upset as I plus ones him to everything, therefore I asked about it and he kind of seemed awkward.(All his mates were at the gathering too). After that, we talked on message and it was just a bit awkward, and surely the day after I apologised and it was really cold between us.

One of my mates talked to him about it and he said he didn't really want to be together anymore /lost feelings. SO of course my mate told me, so I started a chat with him and we broke off the relationship. (I said we should break up and he said he thought that was a good idea). I Didn't EVEN WANT TO BREAK UP WITH HIM I STILL HAD feelings for him! But I knew he was going to break up with me so I did it, well at least he had 'mixed feelings' leading more to the break up side. I feel so cheated by our relationship because just a mere 2 days before hand he was saying he loves me so much and sending me a million love hearts... Being the sweetest boyfriend ever. Then all of a sudden it really came out of no where. Anyhow, so we broke up.. And he just started being immature from there. I got blocked/deleted from everything. Of course being upset by this, I told my friends he was a and he found out, which I reckon made him hate me.. But from my point of view I was so upset so it's how I let out my emotions.

Now, months on, I still see him looking at me sometimes, and it's really obvious he is still so nervous around me/cares about my opinion. In front of me he flirts with so many girls to try make me jealous, but apparently behind my back he doesn't care at all and just sticks with his mates. (That means he cares right?). He goes so out of his way to dodge me and not be seen by me...? I would be completely fine with being friends but he doesn't want to at all. What did I do to make him hate me so much? Or be so disgusted? I'm so confused by this all. I wonder sometimes if he is completely over me because I'm not sure.. I want to get over him because I should, but I genuinely always liked him and I can't get over it. And although everyone says 'find another guy', I've been asked out by so many guys since the break up but I only want my ex.

PLEASE PROVIDE YOUR OPINION ON WHAT YOU THINK IS GOING ON, or if he is completely over me.. Then how do I once and for all get over him?

Thank you so much oxoxox

[joypulv]

Flirting for a year, dating a month? That's not a boyfriend, that's a brief relationship. And yes, he is still at an age (you sound very young too) where his mates count for a lot, and it was not a good situation to leap from his good friend to him right from the start. You both play games, not saying real feelings when you are hurt, and showing anger at stupid things like the gathering you weren't invited to (probably your last ex there, right?) AND retaliating online and with friends. Good grief! That's a triple whammy.

You are as immature as he is. ANYONE who asks total strangers if he is over you or not is still immature.

Do you want to show some maturity? Talk to him when no one else is around, and don't tell ANYONE afterwards. Tell him that you still think fondly of him and wish you had been more honest about your true feelings when you broke up, but that you realize it's really over, and wasn't a good idea from the start, right after one of his best mates. You just wanted to say that, and you like him, and will always remember him, and goodbye.

Some years from now, you will understand that sending a million hearts has NOTHING to do with love. It's just easy, mindless romance. Real love is respect, understanding, and compromise. And usually sharing and surviving troubles together.

[Homegirl 50]

I agree 100% with joypulv.
You had a brief relationship with someone you flirted with for a year. I see no signs that he wants back with you, you need to chalk it up to experience and move on.