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AK lawyer · Oct 14, 2014, 10:01 PM

Will the OP be giving birth in Alaska? If so, we can clear this up for her better as it appears this is a state specific law.

That was my assumption. But now that I look again at the opening post, all we know is that the putative father is in Alaska. As I say, the Alaska Statutes (The Vital Statistics Act, in particular) and the regulations pertaining to the same subject fail to address the issue.

It appears that we may be off on a tangent anyway.

J_9 · Oct 14, 2014, 10:25 PM

I was just looking at that AK. It does indeed fail to address that issue.

The OP does appear to live in Anchorage when viewing her profile page.

AK lawyer · Oct 15, 2014, 10:28 AM

The only other thing is that some parents want to give their children hyphenated surnames. If the use of the mother's surname (or the father's if the parents are married) were required, hyphenated surnames on BCs would be problematical.

megami8elie · Oct 16, 2014, 10:12 PM

Here's our conversation from last night:

Me: Are you aware of signing and witnessing the Affidavit of Paternity on the Birth Certificate? But then you said you'll be deployed.

J: ?

Me: Registering you as the father but not going to use your last name for the baby.

J: I am not going to be on as father.

Me: Ha? Even if we do that you still be forced to pay child support.

J: No.

Me: I know you don't want to but it's not me that will force you to pay... it's the State of Alaska.

J: If you leave me off it and not worry it, it'll be fine.

Me: Worst case scenario, if the state will find out, they will let you pay for it. They could even take your driver's license, or put you in jail, and/or force you to pay.

J: Leave it off and I'll deal with what comes. I'm on sleep meds so might not remember this in the morning. G'night.

Me: Ha? How come?

J: Because I have trouble sleeping now. I'm going to sleep. Goodnight.

Thinking he's being haunted with his own conscience and GUILT.

J_9 · Oct 16, 2014, 10:17 PM

You need to file for child support whether his name is on the birth certificate. Raising a child is expensive.

The state doesn't automatically force him to pay support, but a court order does and your will need to file for it.

J_9 · Oct 16, 2014, 10:30 PM

My daughter was born in Palmer/Wasilla before I married her father. I know how this all works up there.

ScottGem · Oct 17, 2014, 05:18 AM

Interesting conversation. You said:

Are you aware of signing and witnessing the Affidavit of Paternity on the Birth Certificate?

But an AOP is usually not signed until AFTER birth. Did you really get him to sign one already? And he doesn't witness it, someone else does.

You can work it out with him to pay support directly without a court order. You can use an online calculator (Alaska Child Support Calculator - Use the Alaska Child Support Calculator) to estimate the amount of support he will be required to pay and enter into an agreement with him. Then, if he misses payments, you can take him to court. But I wouldn't advise it. I would advise getting support ordered by a court as soon as the child is born.

AK lawyer · Oct 17, 2014, 08:50 AM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

Did you really get him to sign one already?

I believe OP was trying to inform the father of the need to execute an AOP.

Originally Posted by megami8elie

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Thinking he's being haunted with his own conscience and GUILT.

Haunted by megami8elie, actually.

OP should consider refraining from harassing him late at night like this. He might just want to program his phone to refuse her texts, in which case that line of communication would be effectively cut.

megami8elie · Oct 18, 2014, 05:13 PM

Not harassing him. He actually called me twice two nights ago and he was telling me he wanted to talk to me, but I told him I'm already in bed >>>> sleeping. And the time I texted him it was only 10:30 in the evening, he usually go to bed 12:sh to 2sh. Sorry I don't think I'm the reason behind his "disturbed sleeping pattern."