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ihavenoname · Apr 14, 2007, 04:06 AM

Hello,
I have along story to tell but I'll make it short:

Dated guy for year and a half, fell in love, found out he cheated on me (girl was living with him), broke it off with him and deleted him from MSN messenger, then he deleted me.

Year past and guy sent flowers to me, me I'm stupid, got back with guy and we dated for almost a year and a half and I found out he was cheating on me again with the same girl and possibly others. So I broke it off again and I deleted him from MSN messenger again, but he hasn't deleted me (it's been over two weeks since we split) He's the kind of guy to check to see if I've delteded him too.

I'm going to have his baby in a few weeks. We 've always had a great relationship (so I thought) and I truly loved him as he always told me he loves me and said I was the best thing to ever happen to him... also said he'd never hurt me again (yeah right!)

I'm really hurt about the whole thing but know to never take this guy back again. I just want him to hurt sooo bad and miss me.

Is he still trying to hold on to me somehow by not deleting me?

JoeCanada76 · Apr 14, 2007, 04:11 AM

Uhm, I think your reading way way into too much of him keeping you on the msn contact. You said your pregnant. Maybe does he want to keep in touch because of that? How has he reacted? Do you want him to be part of your baby's life?

It sounds in your post that your more worried about his reaction and your wanting him to miss you even though you had a so called good relationship which was a complete joke as I see it.

What you need to focus on is the baby. No one else right now.

Joe

ihavenoname · Apr 14, 2007, 04:22 AM

I know I need to focus on my baby and she is the most important thing in my life... it just hurts to not be able to share this with him, even though he doesn't deserve it. He was the one who said to me he wants a baby with me. He wanted us to get married and have a life together. He was a very loving boyfriend to me and always rubbed my belly and talked to the baby. He loved it when she would kick and would never take his hand off my belly. So you see... this whole thing doesn't make any sense! Why is it when you think you're happy and things are great, the guy f***s up!!

Geoffersonairplane · Apr 14, 2007, 04:34 AM

I don't want too sound harsh here but this is not the act of a true man, a responsible father. He does not seem capable of holding a committed relationship and his actions speak volumes about the kind of person he is.

O.K without slating him too much because that is not what you are here for, the baby is the most important thing right now and you must focus your attention on that. Forget this guy for a while, obviously don't deny him access to his child because that is his right but in all honesty, I don't think he will make a good husband, he may be a good father but as far as sincerity goes, this guy lacks it in a big way... I don't doubt he will hurt you again and again if you become his revolving door.

I hope my words are not too harsh but it is my honest opinion.

talaniman · Apr 14, 2007, 07:09 AM

Focus on bringing up your child in a loving environment and let the father pay child support. That doesn't mean you have to fall for his BS ever again though. You should already know better.

JoeCanada76 · Apr 14, 2007, 07:23 AM

Okay, yes the guy is f*&$ed up but you are also as well for keep letting him in your life. This stress is your own fault as well for always having a soft spot for a guy who keeps cheating on you.

I know it may be confusing to you and the actions are different concerning you and the baby, but right now the focus is the baby.

Of course it is your decision whether you want him to be part of the baby's life or not. Just do not get your hopes up for a relationship or make it clear you can not trust him right now. Now though with a baby coming it is up to you whether you want him to be part of that or not.

Best wishes to you.

Joe

cherrybaby · Apr 15, 2007, 08:33 AM

You can block him on your msn and he won't be able to contact you again, also if u want to check if he has deleted you, type in on Google ''who has deleted me on msn'' and u can find out if he has actually deleted you. Hope this helps:)