[PrincessPeach95]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. I love him deeply he's my everything and I'm the type of girl that'll do anything so he can be happy. He gets me everything I want and very happy he does. But, I'd rather get my stuff with my own money and not his. I do appreciate that he tells me that if I need money I should ask him. I'll only use that when I'm in an emergency or something. Ok so no one knows were dating we've kept it a secret over 6 years. My cousin recently told me that when my boyfriend go's out of town he goes to those places were women sell their body. (Prostitutes) my cousin said he has a card in his wallet and I checked his wallet and saw it their. How can I confront him? Im tearing down in millions of pieces. I've been with him for such a long time and this never went in my head that he would do this to me. My cousin is friends with my boyfriend but my cousin doesn't know were dating. He even told me cousin if he wants to go with him when ever he goes out of town. Please I need help how is the way to confront him I haven't told him anything yet.

[CravenMorhead]

Why are you keeping your relationship a secret? This confuses me. Is this your idea or his? It is actually integral to my answer.

[joypulv]

It would help to know why your have this secret relationship.

As for how to confront him, there are no rules except to keep from shouting. And since you don't have real proof, there's the delicate matter of accusing or asking. Ideally you ask and he tells the truth, rather than you ask and he sees that as an opportunity to deny it. You need to be prepared for EVERY response. Will you assume that a denial is a lie, or will you believe him? How will you handle this, depending on what happens? He will admit it, he will deny it. You will believe him or not if he denies it. What will you do?
Before you confront him, I might talk to your cousin again. 'Goes to those places' - does that mean he does anything? Has a card in his wallet - does that mean he was accosted by a prostitute who handed him her card? I would try to find out more (and take some time to calm down) before confronting.

[talaniman]

Keeping such HUGE secrets for 6 years just invites intrigue and misunderstandings, and the people around you have to be pretty dense not to see, or suspect SOMETHING between you two. After 6 years if there is not enough honesty, or trust, between you to get the truth, you have totally been wasting your time with this secret stuff. Why the secrecy, and how old are you both?

The fact you cannot talk to him after 6 years is a darn shame. This will certainly be a test of this 6 year secret relationship for sure. I highly suggest you calm down and approach this coolly, and calmly, and talk, not confront, HONESTLY, even about your snooping, and What your cousin told you that started this emotional crap in the first place.

Why would your cousin tell YOU such a thing in the first place if he doesn't know you are seeing him? Many questions to answer.

[smoothy]

How old are you both? Sounds like you are barely 18 and he is probibly a LOT older than you.