[Voetjie]

Some of you might know me, some of you don't from my previous posts.. I'm the guy that went through a pretty rough relationship and to think its my first love (it actually is). It's been a pretty hard year for me, I've been with agirl that been constantly tuning me, hurting me and upsetting me… but I'm also in the wrong, I don't like her speaking to her exes. I've made a couple of threads here asking for advice, well till now I've got to the realization that I had to stand up and end things with her. Right now I feel like a douche………
I don't want to be the bad guy and make her cry, but yet again I think I almost cry more than her ( I'm a softy) truth is that I really love her and when I say this, I mean that I really love her. But the pain she puts me trough is too much and this has been said by people on the forums, psychologists,friends and parents… Right now I feel like I made a mistake (but people say I don't)getting over your first love isn't easy (this has been said by a lot of people) and I'm having a hard time to cope.. I feel like crap just leaving her. She didn't speak to me at all yesterday and she spoke to the guys I hate and she knows that (we have been dating for 7 months now) and I went to a psychologist and he said that it's really an unhealthy relationship so today when I saw her I said “…. I'm letting you free” she then started crying, I then tried comforting her but she didn't want it…
Right now I can't stop thinking of her and I'm scared I might not get over her…I don't know what I'm supposed to do? How will I get over her? What must I do when I see her with someone else at school? Most ofall how do you get over someone you really love…….

[Fr_Chuck]

First, it is not just first love, it will be the second love, the third love and so on. Each next love is better, and bigger and is always the right one, at least to start.

First, you stop any contact, good, she did not talk to her, you don't talk,
Not another word.

You do not send her another text message, not another email.

You unfriend her from Facebook, and delete all of her information. You take down all her photos, and suffer for a week or so.

You stay busy, do things with friends.

[Oliver2011]

Oy vey. Look at my last previous posts and the ones before that and the ones before that.

Move your life forward or remain hole of depression, sadness, self loathing, etc. A hole you have created for yourself.

[talaniman]

You are so stuck. Get a life that you enjoy without her, and get ready for the second love of your life.

[Precious7]

Right now I can't stop thinking of her and I'm scared I might not get over her…I don't know what I'm supposed to do?

Who said its easy to let go of first love? Its not easy but also not impossible, the real thing which play a role here is self control and time, keep yourself strong and control, try not to think about her or avoid anything which reminds you about her, don't let yourself driven away form emotions, and second is timing so wait patiently to heal your heart, give yourself a break, a time to think just about you individually, for your future, for the things you are going to achieve in your life1 and then Time heals everything.

She didn't speak to me at all yesterday and she spoke to the guys I hate and she knows that (we have been dating for 7 months now)

This itself should motivate you that you did a right thing. Don't feel bad for that but trust in your decision.