[lightmcqueen]

Hey all.
So my gf and i met in college we have been together for about 2 years, i moved back home from another state and she bought a house and i moved in with her, everything was going well until she got her job, our romance fell apart and we just fell in a routine. She said she's depressed and nothing can make her happy until she just becomes happy with herself so she wanted a break. I agreed i moved all of my stuff and gave her, her space however she still texts me and wears my necklace i gave her and also keep our pictures up in the house. She says she's lost with her career and doesn't know what she wants. She still loves me but said when we all get back to normal we have to start fresh and start from scratch.

Any advice on what to do?

[smoothy]

Don't hold your breath... sure she MIGHT... but nobody is worth waiting years for them to make their mind up... which they can always decide against you 2 or more years from now. Then if you were sitting around with your thumb up your butt figuratively... where does that leave you and how would you feel.


Me? She would get a chance that lasted up until the time I found someone new... at which tuime it would be too late.

[talaniman]

Go to Plan B while she finds herself. Get a life that you enjoy without her in it. Why should you be confused because she is? Maybe she figures it out, maybe she doesn't. Not your problem and you can't figure it out for her.

Bottomline, she dumped you, and kicked you out. She wasn't confused about that part now was she?

[broken_ heart]

I think both smoothy and Tal are saying right... she has dumped you already.. dont hang in waiting for her... you will only lose your precious time waiting for the one... who wants to keep you as an option only... the day she will get someone... she will change... trust this... and the sooner you move.. the better for you...

[JuggaletteShay]

Women have a lot going on, as is. Alotta things to worry an think about. An if her job is wearing her down she probably is frustrated. She split her life in half, you an her job. I'm a girl an even I'm confused by women. (Also bi) she just might actually need space to think. An sometimes if you haven't lived together before it could be very overwhelming for her, they say "you dnt know someone till you live with them" that could be it. If she's still talking to you, that's a good sign.
The 'starting over' thing is a wee but confusing to me as well.
Just talk to her face to face, listen to her an see what she wants, now an in the future, her feelings. Tell her how you feel... Communicating an honesty is key. Stop over thinking until you get all your answers. Good luck! :)