[krogers13]

So my boyfriend was passed out drunk one night and I asked him if he had ever cheated on me, his response was "No..why did you go through my phone?". Instantly I got concerned. Was there something on his phone he qualified as cheating? Guilty as I felt, I went through it when he was sleeping. I didn't find anything too bad.. but his pictures album was literally 50 pictures of seductive looking girls and porn stars. I don't care if he watches porn, until I came across seductive pictures of girls we BOTH knew. They weren't ones that were personally sent to him, they were ones the girls had posted on social media. I explained to him how I felt demeaned by it and now would constantly compare myself to the girls in his "spank bank". But what bothered me most is the fact he had girls saved who WEREN'T porn stars. Am I over reacting? Is he in the wrong for going beyond porn stars to jerk off to (or whatever he does with those pictures.. ). We've been in a committed relationship for 3 years and very rarely have we both had issues with the opposite sex.

[tickle]

Yes, you are over reacting in my opinion. Why be bothered with this if you and he get along well and there is nothing wrong with your sex life. You say you are in a committed relationship, keep it that way.

[smoothy]

You are WAY over reacting.

Its his phone... not yours. Its his property, and his personal space, not yours.

Get over it... or you are going to ruin your relationship.

Now... if he goes through your purse, your drawers and your phone while you sleep... how would that make you feel? And be honest.

[talaniman]

You don't have to compare yourself to the girls in his "spank bank" you know.

[odinn7]

You actually got what you were asking for when you took it upon yourself to snoop through his phone.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, over reacting a lot..

You do not care if he looks at porn,, so just do not care... If the photos were of social media they are not too pornish, assuming you mean normal media, not a porn site where you exchange nude photos

So they were friends of yours, if they are hot, he may want to watch the photo, while masturbating.

They were not sent, just taken... So he is not even looking at hard porn..

[Jake2008]

I would be more worried about "So my boyfriend was passed out drunk one night " than pictures on his phone (that he wasn't hiding by the way).

Try to think of the bigger picture here.

[smoothy]

Jake2008 raises a very good point. Most people don't do that more than a couple of times in their entire lives... how many times has he?