[Marly39]

Hi there. Not sure how to act with this person who is the wife of a guy who used to work for me. Basically what happened is that, we were OK friends ( the guy) until he got married to her. All of a sudden, he blocked me on fb. I have never been flirty on anything like that with him, as I am madly in love and just recently got engaged to my man. By the way, my partner is friends with the guy too. I never used to know her, even though she works at the same place, different department, so we have seen each other but never spoken. About 6 months later, she started talking to me and we sort of became work friends. I was happy with that, because I wanted her to get to know me and know that she has nothing to worry about. After some time & few lunches with her, we became friends on fb, only to find out that 2 days later she blocked me too!! I couldn't believe it, the worst part is that she acts as if we are friends at work and as if nothing happened. Not sure if she thinks I am stupid and haven't realized she blocked me lol but I just feel sorry for her and try to be nice to her because being insecure that much must be hard to deal with. I act like nothing happened because I want to be the better person even though it hurts my feelings that somebody hates me for no reason. I'm the straight forward person so this has been incredibly hard to put on when all I want to do is say to her, why is she playing games, if she hates me then stop pretending to be friends at work, simple. What do you guys think I should do? Leave it as is or say something to her? Also she is very young, about 20, nearly 10 yrs younger than me and I don't have time for stupid childish games. Never thought I'd be such a threat to a young attractive & married girl lol

[Fr_Chuck]

I think too many people put some importance in Facebook. Who cares if they look at your silly Facebook pages, most of Facebook not worth the time to log on.

Being or not being a "friend" on Facebook means nothing, it is real life and how they treat you there, that matters.

I think perhaps you need to turn the computer off, spend more time in the real world and worry less about silly web sites and what happens there.

[Arrowintheknee]

Ah jealousy, what a nasty little beastie it is!

Firstly, how upset are you by her insecure behaviour? Is it upsetting to you or are you finding it's nothing major and just dusting it off?
If you find that her attitude has in turn upset you, you have the right to take her to the side and just be open and honest with her, and explain that you are by no means a threat.
As she's quite young, I would imagine she would be most likely not be inclined to have a conversation about her behaviour.
If this has no impact on you or your partner what so ever, treat it as such, accept that some people are insecure and just move on with your life.

I do think it's commendable that despite her behaviour you have continued to be the better person (some people just like to cause drama with everyone they come into contact with, regardless how you treat them).
It sounds like she has some issues that she needs to sort through in order to appreciate who she is and be confident in relationships.

Like the previous member has said, try not to put too much importance in things such as Facebook.
It's a handy tool especially in today's digital society, but it's just another tool. Try not to forget about the other means of communication and being away from the PC.
Live and enjoy the real world around you, especially when you're so in love, it makes things just that little more sweeter.