[Daisygirlss]

So, there's a guy who lives in my building and we have a few friends in common but don't know each other well at all. When he first moved in, we would exchange pleasantries in the mornings/evenings when we passed each other "Enjoy your weekend" "Nice morning isn't it?" etc but that's the extent of our interaction. Despite this, for some reason I have a massive crush on him. He's not the hottest guy, but there's something really genuine and attractive about him. For one, he organized a mixer a few months ago to try to get to know the neighbors and in passing I've observed him being really friendly with people in the neighborhood. I went to the mixer intending to get to know him a bit better but there were a lot of people there and by the time we spoke we didn't get past small talk.

I tend to be a very chatty person even when I fancy someone but for some reason I can't be myself around him. He makes me blush and get very awkward.

Then, last month we matched on tinder (a dating app). This means that we both 'liked' each other's profiles. When he didn't acknowledge this after a day, I started a conversation and we chatted back and forth during that week. He joked about being awkward in the building because we've now admitted we fancy each other. His friends even brought it up with our mutual friends - gossiping about it and wondering if anything would happen between us.

But... because I initiated the first conversation, after this I stepped back and waited for him to get in touch again. Nothing. I also see him less and less in the building now and on one occasion when I saw him out at a gig, he avoided my eye contact. There are no upcoming mixers planned - which, if he was shy, could create a casual event that we would both attend to facilitate chatting to me in person.

It's been over a month and there's been no additional conversation from him. Yet, his friends have brought up our match a handful of times with my friends asking why nothing happened as a result of it.

I suppose my question is - I would assume from the follow up behaviour that he's not interested in me, right? That's where I'm at now... but I'm being encouraged by my friends to make another move. As unbiased objective observers, do you have any different interpretations of this? Or, any potential ways to proceed? I ask because 1) I'm still interested to get to know him a better and 2) even if nothing romantic happens, I don't want to be awkward with someone in my building.

Thanks!

[Homegirl 50]

Maybe he is shy and because you stepped back he took it to mean you are not that interested, or maybe he met someone.
I am assuming you are an adult, so if you want to know what's up, approach him again and see where it goes. It won't hurt and at least you will know one way or the other.

[Fr_Chuck]

Agree, why not just ask him out for coffee or dinner.