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crankytwinkles · Sep 28, 2006, 06:02 PM

Okay so I asked how to meet my cute neighbor and I had no choice but to ask him out. I noticed he was moving out the day after I posted my message. Anyway I went out in the hallway to ask him if he needed help moving. He said no. I asked him where he was moving to and if his place was rented out yet? Then I asked him if hed like to go out sometime. He said sure. He rattled off his number and said it is easy to remember (which it is but I was so nervous). We talked for a bit longer and he introduced himself. I then said that I had to write his number down so I did and I gave him my number (although he didn't ask for it). He said it was his cell phone so I could call him anytime. I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said he was busy tonight but tomorrow night would probably work. I said I'd call him tomorrow afternoon. So that's about it. He said he had to be out by 5pm but its 10pm and I noticed that he's back putting more stuff hin his car. My girlfriend told me that he's obviously not interested because he didn't ask for my number and she told me not to call him. I would think if he wasn't interested he would have said he had a girlfriend but she said I probably caught him off guard and he didn't want to hurt my feelings. What do you think? What should I do?

Krs · Sep 29, 2006, 12:21 AM

I Think this thread needs to be passed on the relationships sector :)

Originally Posted by crankytwinkles

i really want to ask him out for a coffee/drink but i don't know what to do. i don't think he has a girlfriend because i never see him with anyone but i don't know forsure. i also don't want to waste my time if he wouldn't be interested.

Your above quote crankytwinkles answers your questions...
Read it clearly..
You want to ask him out, and you don't want to waste your time...

So what am I going to tell you to do?? :p

Ask him out for a drink... what have you got to lose? Nothing!
In any case you may only gain and if not you know where you stand and won't waste more time on him if she says no.

Go for it girl :)

crankytwinkles · Sep 29, 2006, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

I Think this thread needs to be passed on the relationships sector :)

Your above quote crankytwinkles answers your questions...
Read it clearly..
you wanna ask him out, and you dont wanna waste your time...

So what am i going to tell you to do??? :p

Ask him out for a drink... what have you got to lose? Nothing!
In any case you may only gain and if not you know where you stand and wont waste more time on him if she says no.

Go for it girl :)

Thanks for the advice. The only thing is I would ask him out but I've never talked to him before (besides saying hi the other day) and I don't even know his name. I don't want to look desperate or pathetic. I'm an attractive, outgoing 32 year old. Is it okay to ask someone out that you've never met before? Obviously it starts as a physical attraction but I want to know his personality now. Plus I don't know many people in my apartment complex because most of them are married or older.

ScottGem · Sep 29, 2006, 08:15 AM

If he just moved in, then bring him a coffee cake as a welcome.

Krs · Sep 29, 2006, 08:33 AM

Originally Posted by crankytwinkles

thanks for the advice. the only thing is i would ask him out but i've never talked to him before (besides saying hi the other day) and i don't even know his name. i don't want to look desperate or pathetic. i'm an attractive, outgoing 32 year old. is it okay to ask someone out that you've never met before? obviously it starts out as a physical attraction but i wanna know his personality now. plus i don't know many people in my appartment complex because most of them are married or older.

Just next time you say Hi, smile at him, start a conversation by saying
" we seemed to always say HI to eachother and never actually introduced ourselves".
And go from there ;)

crankytwinkles · Sep 29, 2006, 09:28 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

Just next time you say Hi, smile at him, start a conversation by saying
" we seemed to always say HI to eachother and never actually introduced ourselves".
And go from there ;)

Ha ha, easier said then done. It seems that he works nights and I work days so I can "purposely" run into him in the morning when he's getting off work but who really wants to talk first thing in the morning when he probably just wants to sleep. That's why I thought I'd just say "hey wanna go for coffee sometime?" that way it's a yes or no and then its done with. Yikes, I hate this! Ha.

J_9 · Sep 29, 2006, 10:01 AM

Well, look at it this way. You say he works nights and probably wants to go to bed.

Well, you work days, do you want to go to bed as soon as you get home or do you stay awake for a few hours?

Most likely he comes home and watches TV or whatever for a few hours before going to bed.

So, it really is easier done than said if you look at it that way.

Next time you say hi to each other do as the others said.

"I am sorry, we are always saying hi to each other but we have not been properly introduced. My name is _______________. I noticed you have just moved in. If you need anything I live down the hall."

Pretty simple. You just threw the ball in his court. See how he responds.

crankytwinkles · Sep 29, 2006, 05:30 PM

Well thanks for all the advice. I came home today thinking about what I should do and it turns out he is actually moving out. So I decided to as if his place was for rent or is he selling it. After talking to him for a bit I finally asked him out. We are suppost to hook up tomorrow. I said I'd call him tomorrow afternoon. I've been out of the dating seen for so long I'm nervous. Now I want to think positive and think we are going to meet for coffee tomorrow night but I'm still unsure. I guess we will see. Thanks for all your advice. Lets keep our fingers crossed.

s_cianci · Sep 29, 2006, 05:49 PM

You've already taken the first step. Stop by some evening and offer him a little "housewarming" gift, such as a batch of homemade brownies or cookies or something. That's always a good icebreaker.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 29, 2006, 07:56 PM

I am glad to see you are taking a chance and talking to him.

But will address also for others that happen not to be moving out.

Often in our lives that 30 seconds as we pass someone may be the only time or chance we will see another person. People have to get past worring about what people will think about them.

( yep, I am one of those people who will talk to you at the gas station, at the walmart checkout line and even talk to you across the table at McDonalds)

If we don't take a chance and talk up, often a special person may merely walk pass us the rest of our life.