[nikkola1]

I'm going through the divorce now and dealing with him moving his affair in. Just nice to hear from someone else that been through it. We broke up 15 years ago and I dated and slept with other people and because we had a friend together and saw each other once in awhile he heard about it and know that he cheated that his excuse for his behavior. He gave me a list when he finally confessed that he had 33 inappropriate behaviors with women said he didn't sleep with them, but would flirt and get attention. Still to me that's cheating and know the last one that's 15 years younger than him he is dating still. He blames me for all of it, but then at the same time says but I know it my fault. The hardest thing is him to say but I'm not ever going to do that again I'll get out of the relationship first. He had many girlfriend when we broke up and I don't hold that over him, but of course its different because he loved all of them! Just need feed back!

[talaniman]

I wouldn't put any stock into what a cheater you dumped so long ago has to say about what you are doing now. Ignore his trying to judge what you are doing now. I am confused by your reference to dumping him 15 years ago, and just going through a divorce.

What took so long?