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heartaches · Apr 6, 2014, 06:08 PM

My ex is my first and only partner since I was 19. I'm now going on 24years old, we were in a long distance relationship which was working. I visit his country on numerous occations to spend time with him. He always said he loves me and we are going be married. In the year 2013, he wanted us to have a child. I loved him and wanted to as well. After I got pregnant, his ex's that he was in a relationship with while we were together inboxed me and told me all he was hiding from me. I was crushed, he denied everything, until I showed him explicit pics of girls in his apartment and to go further, one where he was having sex with one of them. He asked me to please forgive him and lets be a family like we planned and I wouldn't have to worry about anything like this again.

He asked me to come to his country to have our daughter, so I quit my job and went, after being there a month something didn't feel right. He started to treat me so badly. When my daughter was born two weeks after birth, I had to call the police on him cause he shoved me for answering his phone when the other woman called. I then found out he got his bestfriends daughter (the other woman) pregnant while I was there with him. He lived with me for 5 and a half month as if nothing was wrong and he knew all along what was going on. He disrespected and humiliated me, and neglected me and my daughter to attend to the younger girl, just to prove his loyalty to her and her mom.

I'm back home and the depression of taking care of our child on my own and trying to get over the betrayal is unbearable. Can I sue him for any of this?

cdad · Apr 6, 2014, 06:25 PM

You can go to your local court and ask about getting a child support order. That is about the extent of what you can actually sue for at this time. What countries are involved here ?

smoothy · Apr 6, 2014, 06:28 PM

You can file for child support... but its going to be a lot more difficult being he's in a different country than you since a DNA test is going to need done to prove it. (nobodies dounbting you... but a DNA test is irrefutable proof of parentage).

I know it's a bit late... but yours is proof positive why long distance relationships are always a bad idea... even more so when the other person is in a different country.

ScottGem · Apr 7, 2014, 05:17 AM

As noted you can file for child support, but the problem will be collecting if he's in a foreign country. As to any other suit, the issue here will be caveat emptor (let the buyer beware). You had enough clues not to go and have a baby with him but you did it anyway.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 7, 2014, 06:25 AM

Agree, you were both adults, you even knew he was with other women before you went on with him. You accepted his behavior and believed his lies. No idea why you stay with him, after all of this,

But child support is all, and even it will be hard to collect from another country

J_9 · Apr 7, 2014, 06:32 AM

I'm not sure what you want to sue him for. Child support/maintenance is appropriate. But other than that...

Emotional distress? The warning signs were there, but chose to ignore them. Choices come with consequences.

I still shake my head at the litigious nature of people who want to sue and clog up the court systems when things don't go the way they want them to.