[cats12345]

I've seen where people have posted questions about men no longer being attracted to them and I think I am having a similar problem. Try not to judge me too much, even though this may seem silly to you it's serious to me.

I have known my boyfriend for 2 years. I met him online and for the whole first year that I knew him we were the best of friends. We talked non-stop and played video games together all the time. In July of last year I discovered that he had been having feelings for me for 6 months. I had only thought of him as more than a friend a few times, but in the past I had developed little crushes on friends and it always ended badly so I ignored it. We started dating and while we still haven't met it was extremely sexual pretty early on. I think within the first month I had started asking him for inappropriate photos and yadda yadda.

Anyway, he just recently moved to a different country for work and we've been talking SIGNIFICANTLY less because of the new time difference + him working everyday. Also he NEVER acts interested in me sexually. Used to we would get on webcam to talk and I'd be able to turn him on very easily, but he doesn't seem interested in me at ALL lately. I don't know, I think maybe he's been fulfilling his sexual urges by masturbating without me, and by the time he finally talks to me it's after work and he's tired. I believe he still loves me and most of the time I feel like I love him too, but I constantly feel unattractive and unwanted and it's making me miserable.

What should I do to fix this?

[odinn7]

Sounds like one of two things going on here....

1) He is tired of the LDR thing and realizes he is wasting his time as it will never go anywhere and he wants more than that.

2) He met someone else and doesn't know how to tell you.

I'd say if you talk to him and can't get a sufficient answer, time to move on.

[talaniman]

His real life is better than his online life. And easier to access.

[smoothy]

I agree with both previous posters... Its time you move on as it appears he has already.

[Oliver2011]

"We started dating and while we still haven't met"

If that is the new dating then I want to go back to the old dating.

Real in person relationships are so much better than internet relationships.

[smoothy]

Exactly... its not a date unless you actually go someplace together (the same place)... at the same time. Otherwise all you are doing is talking to some other person somewhere else who may or may not be who they present themselves as. As far too many people have found that out the hard way.

And far too many people find the person they created in their mind rarely turns out to be just as good or better int eh flesh.

But even then....many relationships fizzle after only weeks, or months...even a year or more. And its always harder on the other person.