[alucnm]

Well I met this lady on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend he cheated on her while she was with him. She had a lot of sexual intercourse with me and she said she can be happy with me. Once she broke with her boyfriend and came to my place she started to miss this guy. I been doing everything for her as a man and as someone who wants to make her happy but the day she moved she asked me to let her stay one more night with him and I'll stay with you every night. I felt like **** but I said OK.

The next day she told me that doesn't know what to do and she doesn't know why she misses him so much. The relationship between him and her is a disaster. I just don't know what to do and every time I call her she's saying I'm giving her too much attention. Any hint? Should I just let her be with that guy and let her realize again what she wants or keep trying harder and get her to love me more?

Sorry about my grammar or spelling english is my second lenguange

[talaniman]

You are asking for a lot of trouble giving your heart to someone in a broken bad relationship she hasn't gotten over yet. Run for the hills and let her workout her own feelings with no influence from you.

I think she is using you to get revenge on her cheating boyfriend to be honest, but she is a disaster waiting to happen.

[Oliver2011]

"she asked me to let her stay one more night with him and I'll stay with you every night. I felt like **** but I said OK."

Why would you agree to this? Not to be judgmental but EWWWWWWW. I agree with talaniman - you are being used. Mentally and emotionally you will be better off to distance yourself from this mess. Set your standards higher. I would also add that when you engage in sex so quickly into the beginning of a relationship and before you completely know the person, a lot of times the relationship will not succeed.

[Jake2008]

An honorable man, as you call yourself, wouldn't be having 'sexual intercourse' with another man's girl. An honorable man, wouldn't be allowing himself to fall for a woman who is involved with someone else. An honorable man would be smart enough to know that he needed to wait for the girl he wants, to take care of her own business, before even starting a relationship.

Had you been all those things, you wouldn't be in the position you are in now. She is back with him, and what are you left with- nothing.

You started, right off the bat, with a woman who was cheating on her man, and she was just as bad an example of an unavailable woman as you can get- except for having you on the side for sex. And you took all of the non-relationship with her, to mean that there was something there.

There isn't.

In the future, leave women alone who are not single. Work a little harder on your own self-respect and moral compass, and instinct. Aim a little higher with how you judge a person to be good dating/relationship potential.