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    Oct 22, 2013, 01:39 PM
    My son touching other children's private parts at school
    I have been talking to him and yet today he did it again twice. I've been out of my mind crying, screaming and going crasy. It running the whole town about him touching. What can I do to make him stop. I need help asap
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    Oct 22, 2013, 01:51 PM
    How old is your son? Are parents reporting this to you?

    Crying, screaming, and going crazy won't help. Have you talked calmly with him? Have you considered counseling with/for him?
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    Oct 22, 2013, 01:53 PM
    Is he doing this to both boys and girls? Its being done through clothes, or is he getting them to pull pants down?

    Have you asked him why he does it when he's been told specifically not to?

    How old is he and how old are the children he's touching?
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    Oct 22, 2013, 08:29 PM
    He is 5 years old, he does it to boys and girls.we have talked to him and he was at counceling. But he keeps on doing it. When I ask him did someone touched his private parts where only he can he says no. When I ask him why he does that he aswers he does not know or he know it is wrong. He is such a beautiful boy and he is friendly and likes to make jokes.parents have reported it and I have tried everything but some where I must be doing something wrong or I'm a bad parent. I was molested when I was 6 years old and I I did teach him from he was 3 years old to let know one tauch his peepee. I have googled every possible way and still I can not find an answer to help him understand that this is very wrong. Or I'm I wrong
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    Oct 22, 2013, 08:34 PM
    Is he still going to counseling?
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    Oct 22, 2013, 08:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Is he still going to counseling?
    He did counseling for 3 months all they could say is we need to put him on rittelyn because he is ADHD and I'm against rittelyn it’s a drug. I had the idea that he was molested but they did not say anything. He touches the children with there pants up and they n year younger or older more sorts of crabs it The first he did it the day care mom handled it wrong. She just warned him not having the talk.
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    Oct 22, 2013, 08:49 PM
    He has other behavior problems? Why ADHD?
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    Oct 22, 2013, 08:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    He has other behavior problems? Why ADHD?
    Because he is hyperactive and his concentration is poor. He talks allot and does not listen, most of all we don't baby talk with him, so he talks like me and you and according to them he is not disciplined. And I don't understand it because we are very well disciplining him and he goes to bed at 8, he sort of take more changes with me because I'm the soft one.but my husband talked to him as well about crabing/touching other children's private parts.
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    Oct 22, 2013, 09:03 PM
    What about trying Ritalin to see if it helps?

    Your two different parentlng styles are not good together for him.
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    Oct 22, 2013, 09:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What about trying Ritalin to see if it helps?

    Your two different parentlng styles are not good together for him.
    Ratalin is a drug and it is not a good thing. I'm trying my best
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    Oct 22, 2013, 09:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What about trying Ritalin to see if it helps?

    Your two different parentlng styles are not good together for him.
    Ritalin is a drug and it does not have any good in it. I'm trying my best.I'm not just a softy but there his times he gets his way with me.
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    Oct 22, 2013, 09:13 PM
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    Ratalin is a drug and it is not a good thing. I'm trying my best
    Ritalin can be a good thing if the dose is correct and the doctor who prescribed it is watchful. Your son has other problems that could benefit from Ritalin. I would try it for a certain amount of time to see if it makes a difference.

    "Trying your best" is not working.
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    Oct 23, 2013, 04:36 AM
    First you are not a bad mother. You have talked to him and gotten him counseling. You are doing mostly the right thing.

    But if multiple doctors are telling you that he needs some drug to deal with things, then you need to at least give it a try. Not all drugs are bad if used properly. Would it be better if the school refuses to let him go there and you have to home school him or worse?

    He clearly has a problem processing what is right and wrong and, if he needs chemical help to do that, its better than the alternatives.
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    Oct 23, 2013, 04:39 AM
    Stop thinking drugs equals bad, and consider medication equals needed. He is out of control, and doesn't seem to be able to help it, so do as your doctor says, and help him do what he cannot do for himself.

    You have done good getting a doctor involved, now you must follow through with his advice, or what's the point?
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