[nerdylove93]

There's this guy who got in contact with me over Facebook. He asked me for my number so I gave it to him. We started texting each other for about 2 weeks then he eventually asked if we could hang out. I assumed that he was "asking me out on a date" so I said "sure". Our first date was all right. We didn't seem to have much in common and I felt kind of awkward with him... (Just so you know I'm 20 years old and I have never been on a date before! So I'm VERY new to all this! He is 23. I met him once years ago and added him as a friend back then that's how he knew me) He never officially said that this was 'dating' so I'm a little apprehensive on how I should be acting around him.

Our second date was MUCH more fun! I went over to his place and we sat on his couch and watched movies together. He asked if we could 'cuddle' and I said yes. So we did and WOW is he ever good at it! Lets just say I was VERY turned on by him touching me, I could tell he was enjoying it too *hint hint, you know* but things didn't go any farther between us that night.

The third date was (last night), very awkward. We went to see a movie but before the movie we hung out at the mall together (he insisted). All the small talk was very boring and blasé to me. I felt like I appeared very stupid and foolish talking with him and he texted me later saying he had a great night but he felt like HE was the awkward one. Quick note: I don't have very good social skills. I am an introvert and I much prefer to be left alone during my free time.

Next week we have plans to hang out together at his place again and I REALLY want to get physical with him but I don't know if I should. He lives with a room mate in an apartment and I said I wouldn't mind sleeping over. I'm not very attracted to him, but he's better looking than any other guys who have asked me out, keep in mind I rarely get asked out by ANYONE so this relationship with him is pretty important to myself esteem (I know that sounds horrible but I'm a pretty blunt person so I'll tell you like it is). My Mom says "you'll eventually become attracted to him" but it's very hard for me to get attracted to someone from simply 'talking with them'. He says it will get less awkward if we hang out more but I don't know. I haven't told him that I've never dated, I feel admitting that to him would be super embarrassing...

Also I feel extreme happiness when he texts me, he usually texts me everyday but today I haven't gotten one from him... I'm worried I'm scaring him away with my awkwardness. Please let me know what I should do. Any advice is greatly appreciated! :D

[Alty]

Let's break it down.

Our first date was all right. We didn't seem to have much in common and I felt kind of awkward with him.

The third date was (last night), very awkward. We went to see a movie but before the movie we hung out at the mall together (he insisted). All the small talk was very boring and blasé to me

Next week we have plans to hang out together at his place again and I REALLY want to get physical with him but I don't know if I should. He lives with a room mate in an apartment and I said I wouldn't mind sleeping over. I'm not very attracted to him,

keep in mind I rarely get asked out by ANYONE so this relationship with him is pretty important to myself esteem (I know that sounds horrible but I'm a pretty blunt person so I'll tell you like it is).

Sounds like you're dating him because you think he's the only one that will ever ask you out. You've stated you find him boring, you're not attracted to him. So why are you considering having sex with him?

My advice is to date him, but keep your pants on. You've only been on 3 dates. It takes more than 3 dates to get to know someone. You're not being yourself with him, so why should you assume he's being himself? You're both nervous. Just hang out and be friends, see where it leads. Why do you have to have sex right away? That won't solve anything.