[Jessgeeee]

Well after a month of her leaving and loads of mixed signals from her, she retreated and again I was left with What? On Friday I texted her and got no replies, and I gave up inside my dignity was going down Hill then last night I don't know why I texted her again basically telling her I would she would have ended it better and I'm moving on and I got nothing. I feel dumb and I know if I stayed silent the entire time I'm sure she would have tried harder but she did come back twice and say she wanted to see me really soon but then she stopped and that's why I reached out because I was confused! I shouldn't even want someone who treats me like an option right? Why do I feel so bad and she doesn't even give a ? It was 2 years! You can't just forget someone that quick and hide behind work to not deal with it. Well I guess she can. I'm not looking for negative feed back I already know I'm stupid for reaching out

[N0help4u]

Your problem is you are tying your emotions on a girl that doesn't even care. No one Should have your emotions on a string. Cut those strings!

[Jessgeeee]

Your problem is you are tying your emotions on a girl that doesnt even care. No one Should have your emotions on a string. Cut those strings!

yeah I definitely will! I think it's just a case of both of us held onto long to the relationship.. that awkward moment when you realize you are better off without each other haha

[Gullyver]

well I texted her last night (I know stupid) and I just told her that I wished she would have ended it better and other stuff and I got no reply its so hurtful that she doesn't even care enough to leave me with something. But I will continue to move on I have no idea why she won't answer me. She never has likes confrontation and shes very distant when it comes to love shes probably trying to make me disappear and I know shes hiding behind work. It's just so weird and sad.

Haii... I resisted the same temptation of calling her and I am glad I did not contact her in any way, I know it's not always easy but I promised myself to act wisely.

In any way if you really feel you cannot resist try not to accuse her just give calm, and reassuring words 'like I hope you are fine and that you had a good week, I wish you are happy and I miss you' -

- do not be tempted to send her angry messages or vibes, wish her happiness at all times regardless of you guys coming back together, if you act like this you will show great maturity, the strength of a strong and wiser man... you! - anyone would be impressed with such calm and maturity either they want to come back with you or not, think about it...

... as for my girlfriend I have no news since last Wednesday, almost a week and maybe (I hope so) my silence is also making her reflect more about me and about us...

... In any event I miss here very much but I feel much more serene when I wish her happiness in my mind and hart and it makes me feel I am doing the right thing while my patience grows stronger everyday

yeah I definitely will! I think it's just a case of both of us held onto long to the relationship..that awkward moment when you realize you are better off without each other haha

Don't punish yourself or feel stupid because you texted her, you have done it now no point in regretting, it was a mistake,

[Jessgeeee]

don't punish yourself or feel stupid because you texted her, you have done it now no point in regretting, it was a mistake.

I know I was hoping she would show a sign of her caring for maybe a chance but its clear she really doesn't give a about me anymore

[Gullyver]

In your position given your story I would mark an important boundary for yourself and your dignity

It takes 2 people to create the relationship and this process cannot be just one sided. At this point if you are sure that she is treating with coldness and distance keep on sending her happiness, and in the meantime focus peacefully on your life,

If she does not want you to call and she is fine with it you must accept and convince yourself that you are equally fine with her not calling you if is this that she wants

Time and new interests (and women) will ease your full recovery to a new life and a new stronger and wiser 'you'

[Jessgeeee]

In your position given your story I would mark an important boundary for yourself and your dignity

It takes 2 people to create the relationship and this process cannot be just one sided. At this point if you are sure that she is treating with coldness and distance keep on sending her happiness, and in the meantime focus peacefully on your life,

if she does not want you to call and she is fine with it you must accept and convince yourself that you are equally fine with her not calling you if is this that she wants

Time and new interests (and women) will ease your full recovery to a new life and a new stronger and wiser 'you'

Thanks. It's definitely easier with work and everything but I still think about it and I guess I'm not the only one who's been dumped without a real explanation or ending. It's just really sad that she didn't feel like she could talk to me about it we were inseparable. Each day gets easier but the memories will take awhile to fade out

[Oliver2011]

Oh stop it. You reached out, she didn't bite the bait, and you feel stupid. Dude seriously contacting her wasn't that big a deal. Now if you continue to contact her then it would be a mistake.

You need to move your life forward. Personally I don't worry about the things I can't control. Can you make her love you? No. Can you make her come back to you? No. So control what you can and don't worry about what you can't.

[Gullyver]

QUOTE by Oliver2011;
... You need to move your life forward. Personally I don't worry about the things I can't control. Can you make her love you? No. Can you make her come back to you? No. So control what you can and don't worry about what you can't.

Very very wise talk here, well done mate, now we are talking!

I fully agree with you and this is what I decided to do given I am in a similar situation myself...

It's a strange day after the last few hours of reflection

I feel much better since I decided to mark a strong boundary for my own dignity and respect

I decided to break up with her as I am not happy in this situation that does not seem to change and goes in circle, it's just a beautiful utopia gone bad

My heart from now is a private road, no heavy load or collisions, no more stories that will make me ache

No more waiting

~ ~ O ~ ~

She doesn't know yet and given that she wishes no calls or texts from me I am not in any rush to let her know...

... one day, maybe tomorrow, or next week I will call her to return her last few things and in few minutes I will let her know that there is no more prince... or princess... the prince is flying away in search of new horizons and new routes in life...

... I will tell her that I am grateful nonetheless of the many beautiful moments she gave me... and that I wish her happiness now and forever... we are both free to fly away...

Since I decided I feel so much lighter and... free somehow... I am letting go

... of course there is loads of sadness, I am not a robot...

~ ~ O ~ ~

Farewell to you princess,

Wishing your true happiness, peace and love xxx

------------ * me...

[Jessgeeee]

Why do people avoid the actual break up and give you little to no reason why they leave and then they just never talk to you. Act like nothing happened? I don't understand how people can just push it away..

[Rayraydayday]

In most cases it could be because they never truly cared and just wanted to end it and move on.

[Alty]

For some that's the only way they can leave the relationship. Avoiding contact after you breakup is actually a very good way to get over the person, and move on.

[Fr_Chuck]

For many, they do not want the conflict and what is normally a fight, if the break up happens openly. One party says, I am leaving you, and then one side tries to talk the other out of it, or they want a reason.

And the reason given is almost never the real reason, it is sometimes nicer, to try and not hurt the other person, or it is worst, trying to cause pain.

No contact after the break up, is almost always the recommended advice, if it is over, let it be over, don't look for closure, there is none, just move on.

[N0help4u]

I say they want to avoid conflict and mixed emotions. Like you know the relationship isn't going to work but you love them.

[Jake2008]

Many avoid the natural responsibility of honesty and respect. If it were a matter of a person who had both, you wouldn't have been simply dumped, with no answers.

[Jessgeeee]

So it's been about 10 days since I last talked to my ex girlfriend, it's been about a month since she left me. After she left me she sent me confusing texts about wanting to see me and such but then she went cold on me and again I haven't heard anything in 10 days and its been 14 days since she last initiated contact. Is she moving on? When we last talked she stopped replying after 1 text. And never replied after the ones I sent her. I last contacted her August 4th. She told me like a million times she wanted to see me but then she just stopped. Is she moving on?

[teacherjenn4]

Sounds like you both are playing games. If you don't want to pursue a relationship with her, then stop contacting her. If you want a relationship with her, then keep calling her and she'll either respond or she won't.

[Jessgeeee]

Sounds like you both are playing games. If you don't want to pursue a relationship with her, then stop contacting her. If you want a relationship with her, then keep calling her and she'll either respond or she won't.

I don't even mean to be playing games. I was all for just leaving it alone but then she contacted me "checking in" on me and she just kept sending weird mixed signals. Then she stopped so I'm just trying to move on but I'm confused by her actions or lack there of

[talaniman]

Stop responding to her. Just because she is confused or playing a dumb game do you have to be?

All your threads about the same girl have been merged together.