[Elvisrosas]

I am 19 years old and I've been dating with a quite a lot of girls and all these relationships been short because I try to have sex with them so early. I can't really help it. I get really turned on real easily even with the smallest kiss. I really don't know what I do. I really want a healthy relationship with a girl but my actions always lead to me trying to have sex with them. I really do try to control myself but my actions always lead up to sex.

What can I do to make the small things not lead to sex? When would be the right time for it? What can I do to control myself? Help please.

[N0help4u]

Treat them like your sister or your best friend and do not try to hold their hand or kiss them. Get control of yourself

[talaniman]

Maybe it's your choice in females. They don't seem to say no.

[Elvisrosas]

Some don't but still its to the point where females think that I am using them and Its hard to keep a relationship with that situation

[talaniman]

What happens when they say no?

[Elvisrosas]

Usually I just say OK then we kiss then my actions get crazy again but I usually don't do anything I'm not the forcing kind of person

[talaniman]

Your one liners yield no information except you are out of control and may need professional help.

Given you think it's a problem, then find a therapist, or keep getting all the sex you want from these very pliant it seem females. Generally being constantly rebuffed makes one think of what they are doing wrong.

[Oliver2011]

It is called immaturity and thinking only about yourself. You will never build a meaningful relationship that way.

[JudyKayTee]

No, Oliver, it's called thinking with one head instead of two.

"usually I just say ok then we kiss then my actions get crazy again but I usually dnt do anything im not the forcing kind of person" - "crazy actions" often are grounds for arrest. This would finish the relationship for me!

EDIT: You had a steady girlfriend in January and thought she was pregnant. What changed since then?

[Oliver2011]

And clearly he is more about pleasing himself than he is about pleasing his partner. Sad really - the victim is used so he can smile. Not the kind of partner I will ever want. Hopefully the victims have more self respect than to give in to that.

[JudyKayTee]

Suggested reading material - his other threads.

I was in one abusive relationship - he never thought he was abusive but, yes, self admittedly sometimes he "got a little crazy" - like when I didn't do exactly what he wanted me to do, when he wanted me to do it.