[Confushasay]

Hi all.

Another post from me that I need help with.

So in the past I've complained about my boyfriend but we are still dating and not sure how I'm putting up with half the crap he brings home with all his stress and anger and how 99.99% of the time he takes it out on me, just to speed you up on things recently my boyfriend came home very upset I asked him what's wrong and he flipped his saying that everything is wrong people telling me what to do is pissing me off I can't get anything done pretty much it's all about me, me, me then he started yelling at me saying I don't let him hang out with his friends, which is bull the only thing I said to him was that his friends use him for their benefits and are steering him down the wrong path when he is with them, they take drugs, smoke, drink and visit strip clubs regularly and sleep around and drag him along and try to persuade him to do behind my back, whether he does or doesn't I don't know but I'm not jumping to conclusions because he is a trustworthy person. Anyway after his tangent and yelling session and it's the all about me show ill kick you up to start with my actual question. Now we've been together for a few years at the start our sex was AMAZINGGGG then half way through it went to its good/ok and now it's I have cob webs down there I might as well have a chastity belt! So the point is our sex life has turned into its all about him again, I have to give him oral and heavens forbid he'd offer to please me, if we are having sex I must be on top and do all the work while he just lays there only difference is he doesn't push me off turn around and sleep he says I'm done if you want to keep going go, but I have to still do all the work, he doesn't kiss my body only wants to grab my breasts and . So here's the kicker when I get upset about it that I feel like I'm a whore who just pleases and gets nothing in return he has ago at me and says he is tired from work and I pick the worst time to have sex, well I'm sorry but what the f! We both work morning to about 6pm I get home cook clean wash obviously by the time we get to bed its 10-11pm. I have a healthy sex drive and I have needs like any person does but he just doesn't get it, I'm not going to breakup with him over sex, but ladies (or gents) surely there's a way I could get his libido at the same level of mine, I strip for him I dance for him everything a man could ever want I just want a bit more romance and a bit more this time it's about you.

Anyway sorry for the long post again but if anyone has helpful hints post below.

Oh and yes I've spoken to him about this but like I said ends up in a fight.

[smoothy]

And yet you stay with him? I see more negatives than positives.

Incidentally... the tapering off... that's the lust fading and reality setting in. That usually takes between 6 months and 3 years.

If its bland and none existent this early... you are flogging a dead horse. Honestly. It takes two... one can't do it on their own.

My qualifications to say this... dated a few dozen women... over 14 years... married one 22 years ago... and its never gotten dull or boring yet. So I think I've got some idea abut what works.

[JudyKayTee]

Is this the same guy? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-689522.html

You cannot possibly be in a successful relationship until you are a whole lot happier with yourself.

Still living at home, studying for your PhD? What happened to all the reasons you had to live at home - because (upon reading again) it doesn't sound like you are living at home.

Maybe the pregnancy scare changed the way he looks at you.