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JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 11:27 AM

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 14 months and he's a little older than me and I love him very much. He gives me good advice, and he encourages me to do my best in school.

But my only problem is we constantly break up, and usually I’m the one ending our relationship and he seems to think I’m always breaking up with him for no reason because I don't tell him the reasons I break up with him which I sort of understand in a way.

As of right now we are broken up because we barely see each other besides once a week since he has to work (not every day of the week). He recently got a second job and don't get me wrong I’m very happy for him but that just puts a strain on our relationship when you think about it because if we barely see each other while you have one job then that'll make it even more difficult with two.

At first I didn't mind it because I was in school and that kept my time occupied but since I’m out of school for the summer that'll make me think of it even more. He doesn't see anything wrong with it which is a problem for me so any suggestions on how I can make this work??

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 11:33 AM

I don't see a problem with someone working two jobs to better their financial situation. Did you expect him to quit his jobs because you are out of school for the summer? Are you in high school?

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

I don't see a problem with someone working two jobs to better their financial situation. Did you expect him to quit his jobs because you are out of school for the summer? Are you in high school?

No I Didn't Expect Him To Quit His Jobs, I Expected Him To At least Have A Conversation With Me Before Getting A Second And Taking Into Consideration How Him Having Two Jobs Would Affect Our Relationship!

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 11:38 AM

Originally Posted by JaniyahW_

No I Didn't Expect Him To Quit His Jobs, I Expected Him To Atleast Have A Conversation With Me Before Getting A Second And Taking Into Consideration How Him Having Two Jobs Would Affect Our Relationship!

Do you live together? Does he have bills to pay?

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 11:44 AM

Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

Do you live together? Does he have bills to pay?

No And No.

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 11:48 AM

Originally Posted by JaniyahW_

No And No.

Your ages? Is he saving money to buy something?

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 11:50 AM

Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

Your ages? Is he saving money to buy something?

I don't know if he's saving money to buy anything in particular but he always say he's working so he can take me out.

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 11:55 AM

Ages? Are you in high school? Third try!

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

ages? Are you in high school? Third try!

Yes , I'm in high school and he's not!

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 12:00 PM

Originally Posted by JaniyahW_

yes , i'm in high school and he's not!!

I'm done. I'm not sure why you won't answer questions so people here can help you. He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders and you should admire his work ethic.

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 12:01 PM

Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

I'm done. I'm not sure why you won't answer questions so people here can help you. He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders and you should admire his work ethic.

Mhm sure, enjoy the rest of your day :)

odinn7 · Jun 23, 2013, 12:07 PM

So maybe I'll ask... how old are both of you? This will make a difference.

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 12:10 PM

15 & 18

odinn7 · Jun 23, 2013, 12:15 PM

Ok well... to start with... in many places, this relationship could be against the law and he could go to jail.

Maybe he finally realized this and is trying to distance himself from you.

Maybe he is looking towards the future and decided that working two jobs is necessary for him in order to save money.

I saw the way you treated teacherjenn and disrespected her for simply trying to help you because you didn't like her answers... this makes me think that perhaps you treat him the same way. If he does something you don't like, do you jump him right away? I bet you do. In this case, it seems to me like he is simply trying to distance himself from you and hoping you will break up with him.

Then I can add that maybe you should be a little more mature about how you handle this and realize that he is an adult now and all too many adults would rather not work... maybe you should be happy that he is working and trying to get somewhere in life.

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 12:46 PM

First off as you yourself mentioned he is an adult so therefore if he felt as though his freedom was at stake due to our relationship he wouldn't have started it to begin with. I refuse to believe that after 14 months of being in a relationship with me he finally realized that out of the blue.

Secondly I didn't disrespect anyone if I choose to not answer a question that someone is asking then that is my choice and in no way was I trying to disrespect her and if she took it as that then I apologize because that was not my intentions and since I see you were so interested in her & I's interaction then I'm sure you would've saw how I ended the conversation with wishing her a good day.

odinn7 · Jun 23, 2013, 01:27 PM

Was he 18 when you started all this 14 months ago? I doubt it.

So I can tell by your attitude that you really don't want anyone here to help you, right? I mean, anything that anyone says to you is then met with some kind of smart-a$$ answer by you where you imply they know nothing. Ok, if you know it all, why did you come here asking?

Have fun with this because I think you're going to have trouble finding people willing to help you.

JaniyahW_ · Jun 23, 2013, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by odinn7

Was he 18 when you started all this 14 months ago? I doubt it.

So I can tell by your attitude that you really don't want anyone here to help you, right? I mean, anything that anyone says to you is then met with some kind of smart-a$$ answer by you where you imply they know nothing. Ok, if you know it all, why did you come here asking?

Have fun with this because I think you're going to have trouble finding people willing to help you.

Everything you've been saying isn't helping in no way so taking the time out of your day to comment was pointless

teacherjenn4 · Jun 23, 2013, 03:53 PM

Originally Posted by JaniyahW_

everything you've been saying isn't helping in no way so taking the time outta your day to comment was pointless

Another rude post. If you don't like advice we give, then find some friends you know and trust to talk to. Your comments are rude and that's because you don't want to hear what respected adults have to say. How do your parents feel about him?

talaniman · Jun 23, 2013, 04:55 PM

You are broken up and as long as you keep dumping him because he has to work and you can't entertain yourself then he will be looking for a mature relationship rather than listen to a whiny kid who is immature needy and BORED!

What you think he will come crawling back every time you get a bug up your butt? Think again, and if you are going to deal with a man then start acting like a woman, not a kid.

That is IF he comes back. You want it to work, then you better grow up.

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Homegirl 50 · Jun 23, 2013, 05:05 PM

The problem is you are 15 and you act like a 15 year old. You break up with him all the time with no explanation and you think he should have discussed his getting a second job with you, why?
Does he live at home with his parents or on his own. If he is on his own he has expenses and maybe one job doesn't cut it.
Depending on what state you're in, now that he is 18, you may be jail bait. This breaking up with no reason gets old. Maybe he is trying to move on. I can't say that I blame him. Maybe he thinks you are just too young and immature.