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    Mar 30, 2007, 05:36 AM
    Delaing with a breakup AGAIN
    OK so just lastnight my boyfriend of 6months finished with me.
    I haven't actually slept all night or eaten since 2pm yesterday.
    He says he doesn't feel the same as what I do. And that's probably the worst feeling you could get... being in love with someone when then don't love you back.
    But this came as such a shock because we get on fantasticly and in the day he took me out for lunch and we went shopping and even had sex. So I know it wasn't planned to happen lasnight.
    I wish he never said anyhitng now to be honest but then again I would rather know now.
    I just feel so trapped I'm longing to speak to him and just tell him to stop being stupid! Cause that's how it feels... it feels so stupid!

    I also don't have the energy to go through this again because just a year ago me and an ex broke up after a year and a half together and that was a really painfull breakup and I'm just not looking forward to it again.

    He was in a wreck when he told me, he was very upset and I was the one comforting him.. its habit! I ddnt enjoy seeing the guy I love crying. So that's another reason why this just doesn't feel right. He says I hvnt done anyhitng.. so I'm obviously not good enough for him or something.

    Someone please tell me the right thing to do. I really don't need to hear "get over him" and "dont contact him" at the moment though lol... but go for it.

    Thanks!
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    Mar 30, 2007, 05:40 AM
    Why did he finish with you?
    Why was he crying?
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    Mar 30, 2007, 06:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Krs
    Why did he finish with you?
    Why was he cryin?
    He was crying because "he ddnt want to hurt me".. bit late
    And apparently he broke up with me because he dsnt feel the same as I do.. in other words he doesn't love me.. even though he's told me several times he does.. so we have a liar as well!
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    Mar 30, 2007, 06:43 AM
    Something sounds fishy from his behalf but don't stress about that, you HAVE to concentrate on YOU only now
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    Mar 30, 2007, 07:16 AM
    Had he just come out of a relationship before getting involved with you?

    I know you don't want to hear it but No contact..
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    Mar 30, 2007, 10:34 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by rol
    had he just come out of a relationship before getting involved with you?

    I know you dont want to hear it but No contact......!
    Yes hed just come out of a year and a half relationship with another girl, he met me while they were together.. we work together you see. But he told me its nothing to do with that and I do believe him because I trust him... well I did lol.
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    Mar 30, 2007, 10:35 AM
    From your other break-up you survived. You will survive this too. Work on yourself and love yourself. Truth be told after 6 months, you were more emotionally connected than he was. So you moved a little to fast for him, and he was not ready. You will survive if you back off and take care of yourself.

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