[Unknown169]

All right, I don't know what to do at the moment.

We broke up 2 weeks ago and all I do is continue to think about her and It's driving me insane..

She said I was smothering her, she asked for a break a couple of times over these last couple of weeks. I said no, I wanted to work something about before doing that but no, We went up to a buddy's house that we've known for a bit and also packed a lot of clothes. I thought we we're both staying up there for a bit but no, She took me up there to break up with me and wanted me to leave before she started to resent me, she said. So I left and she stayed up there for a night, I picked her up the next day. A couple days later she left again to go back up there to get away from me. She's still up there and all I think about is the worse on what's going on.

I talked to the guy she's staying with and he seems like a okay guy, I've known him for 2 years. I talked with him about if she tries to do something to you, you would tell me, right? And he said yes, that we are just friends and she'll be fine staying here while she gets her thoughts together. But either way, all I can think about is the worse that kills me. She could be staying there to get away from me or she's doing something else and this guy is screwing me over.

She's been living with me for 4 years. I can't kick her out, she has no where else to go but I don't want her to go. Even though we aren't going out, I'm still happy to see her face and be around her. When she does come back, I don't know what she'll do. Take the rest of her stuff and leave? I don't want her too.

[joypulv]

I'm sorry this is happening, but it happens! To all of us!
You DO have a smothering mentality. You think you have the right to know whether she is having sex with someone else. You don't - SHE BROKE UP WITH YOU.
You need to believe the nice guy, first of all. You have no choice anyway. But mainly you have no right to believe, not believe, or demand to know. She is not your girlfriend!
SHE IS NOT YOUR GF ANYMORE.
She is going to move on, move out, eventually find someone else. You must accept it because we no longer live in caves where you can drag her back to the cave by brute force, despite primal urges to do so.
You will suffer, and the pain will seem infinite, and you won't know whether to sit or stand or lie down or which shoe to put on first, and elephants will be standing on your chest.
What do you do? You force yourself to take deep breaths, and ask friends to take you out with them or come over, and not to cheer you up, just let you tag along.

[talaniman]

Pack up the rest of her stuff and take it to her and let her worry about what she does because despite what you want, she wants out. Let her go. Apparently she doe have somewhere to go... his house.

I don't get why you hold onto someone that's not as committed to holding on to you, and when you get dumped, and you were definitely dumped, you let them go and disappear from their lives and focus on your own.

I know 5 years is hard to adjust to but at least recognize you are the only one fighting for this to continue and at some point, like NOW, you have to stop chasing and keep your dignity and self respect.

Sorry guy, but she seems determined to leave you, and doesn't care what she has to do to accomplish that goal.

[Unknown169]

The guy she's staying with lives 40 miles away from me and I'm not wasting gas money for her. I'll I can really do is wait for her to come back down and figure out what to do and where to go.

I don't think the guy will let her stay there. It's not his place, It's his parents place. They we're nice enough to let her stay there for a bit. She's still there at the moment.

She'll send me Facebook messages asking for information that she left here, numbers and other crap.

I'm some what over it and less depressed but I'm worried once she comes back, I'll be put right back in that sh** hole.

I appreciate the help and feedback... Anything helps. I'll definitely keep this thread updated, until she leaves or w/e.

[talaniman]

Personally I would be unavailable to her completely. Stay off Facebook.

[Unknown169]

I know.. I'm such a tool lol.

Got to check it every minute. It's not to see her, Just to check post/newsfeed