[Cat1864]

Sander, the advice hasn't changed. You end the frustration and confusion by walking away. Let him play games with someone else.

This person is not your friend. He is your tormentor because you allow it. Stop accepting this behavior from him and yourself. Have more respect for yourself than to be his toy.

He doesn't love you. I am not even certain he likes you. I think he enjoys playing games with you. Do you really want to be a token in his game? Wouldn't you rather meet someone who cares about you as a person?

If you aren't stalking him, where did you get and why did you have is yearbook? That in itself is a huge red flag that you need to find someone to talk to about this obsession. If you don't, I am afraid you are going to end up hurt or in legal trouble.

Why would you even give a thought to going some place with someone who may not have your best interest in mind? Either find out where you are going or call it off. If you don't, make certain someone you can actually trust knows who you are with and can inform the police if you disappear.

[Alty]

look in the end he wanted it so did I and were both happy he left his girl friend that's it

That was on May 2. Today is May 8 and suddenly you're back at square one?

I can't stop thinking about him all day every day and I think I'm obsessed with him I went over to his house the other day and I showed him his old year book his 45 years old and I showed him he was like are you stalking me ?

You are obsessed and you do seem to be stalking him. How many times does he have to show you, and tell you, that he's not interested, before you get it?

and I was like no I'm not and he had this look on his face like he was not upset but the look of heart ake because he knows I like him I think but he has a girlfriend but I feel we went down this Path and he turns around and gets himself a girl friend but I can't stop thinking about him and I don't want to hate him or stork him I don't want to lose him as a friend what should I do?

He went and got a girlfriend? Is this a different one than the one he supposedly dumped 6 days ago to be with you?

I want to have some physical with him but I don't know weather he been with a man before or he is not ready to have sex with men I don't know and I get it! He has a girl friend I know I understand but he also lead me as well up until this point and he thinks that's it I asked him if he was bisexual he told me that he is not and gave me some reason to do with him being a father and mother to his kids while his ex wife was suffering depression and he hates when I used the word fag and the reason why is because when he was in younger he had friends that where gay and where bashed to death and that's the reason why he hates that word and that it reminds him of that time he also said that he then 20 minutes later he told me he is what should I do

You should respect him enough to leave him alone. He has a girlfriend! His sexual orientation doesn't matter. If he is bi, or gay, or whatever, that doesn't mean that you have the green light to break up this family. Do the right thing and leave the man alone!

... few days after this conversation I went over to his house and we were talking and he said something and I said I replied um... your bisexual? He reply no I'm not I said yes you are you said you were you told me you were he no I didn't say that at all you asked me if I was and I told you I wasn't I said yes that's right but 20mins later in mid conversation you said "im bisexual" no I'm not and said maybe your gay or bisexual you seem to to talk about gays a lot you must have something with gays or bisexuals and just turn it all round and said all the things that he was doing I did and said that's what you get when you prior in to peoples live's and I said he full of and he replied no your full of and then in mid conversation again he turns and says maybe ill get my boyfriend to come and bash you and had a smile on his face and I justed looked at him like are you right? Anyway so that were I am at were are supposed to be going some where later this week but I don't know if we will be going now

You really need to write this part clearer, it's very hard to read.

Our advice hasn't changed since the last time you posted. Leave him alone. If he wanted to be with you, he'd dump the girlfriend and be with you. He hasn't, so that's your answer. What you want doesn't matter, it takes two to tango and he doesn't want to dance with you.

Move on.

[sander88]

Thanks for the advice cat 1864 and the harsh reality of alty look guys ill be his friend because before this all happen I was his friend and the reality I'm still in the same position I'm his friend and I need to start acting like one but will move on and find someone else and pretend this never happen I feel that since talking on here I have come to the understanding that we are all human and we all fall in love and the truth is LOVE IS BLIND! Lol :)

Regardis this alty few days after this conversation i went over to his house and we were talking and he said something and i said i replied um... your bisexual? he reply no im not i said yes you are you said you were you told me you were he no i didnt say that at all you asked me if i was and i told you i wasnt i said yes thats right but 20mins later in mid conversation you said "im bisexual" no im not and said maybe your gay or bisexual you seem to to talk about gays a lot you must have some thing with gays or bisexuals and just turn it all round and said all the things that he was doing i did and said thats what you get when you prior in to peoples live's and i said he full of and he replied no your full of and then in mid conversation again he turns and says maybe ill get my boyfriend to come and bash you and had a smile on his face and i justed looked at him like are you right?? anyway so that were i am at were are supposed to be going some where later this week but i dont know if we will be going now is all I was saying is that if you read the above question all of the actions that he was doing he was saying that I was doing all these actions to him and that I must have a problem with gays or bisexuals or I'm bisexual myself or gay myself but he knows I'm bisexual why is he acting like he doesn't know I am? I don't get that any way that's what I'm going to do thank you for your reality advice :)

Oh the year book is online and anyone can access it

[Cat1864]

Sander, you may think you are his friend, but he is not your friend. Until you figure that out, you are going to keep running around in circles.

Good luck and may you finally figure out that love and friendship are more than mind games and confusion.

[talaniman]

Oh stop muddying the water just because you want some booty from a so called friend. Gay, bi, or straight same results when friends cross the lines and want more than the friend is wanting to give.

Often you lose a friend, because a relationship or hopes for one fails. You need more friends or one with benefits but I doubt you could handle it as just a friendship is throwing you into confusion and turmoil.

Maybe the whole problem is he thinks you are a hungry dog that wants to eat him up. That's truly scary. Obviously lust, not love is what's blinding you.

[JudyKayTee]

You are allowing this man to treat you disrespectfully - I would guess you're the neighborhood joke.

Yes, you are obsessed with him.

I have no idea why this thread is open. You apparently don't want to listen.

I'd give it another couple of months until you have absolutely no self respect left and then post again.

If a woman were posting this about a man "we" would be advising her that she is in danger of being arrested for stalking. I'll give you the same advice.

[Fr_Chuck]

I have been following this, This is a very unhealty relationship, there is no friendship here, does not ever seem to be one. But you are obsessed and will not end it, till there is most likely a restraining order against you

[CravenMorhead]

This is unhealthy.

You're stalking him. This is starting to cross the criminal line and you don't see this. You need to get counselling. More over you need to drop this guy. You need to stop being his friend. You need to get him out of your mind. You need to move on and forget about him. You are starting to obsess about him in a REALLY unhealthy manner.

You need to step back and get out. You've freaked him out, and I would be too. You are constantly thinking about f**king him and you won't deviate. You are forcing your view on how things should be on him without concern about what he wants or what reality is presenting you.

I am honestly frighten about how this is going to end. The good way is for you to see the obsessive nature and drop him for both your sakes. The not so good way ends up with you getting a restraining order from him. The bad way ends up on the 6pm news.

I might be reading too much into this, but this is honestly frightening me.

[Oliver2011]

You are allowing this man to treat you disrespectfully - I would guess you're the neighborhood joke.

Yes, you are obsessed with him.

I have no idea why this thread is open. You apparently don't want to listen.

I'd give it another couple of months until you have absolutely no self respect left and then post again.

If a woman were posting this about a man "we" would be advising her that she is in danger of being arrested for stalking. I'll give you the same advice.

"I have no idea why this thread is open. You apparently don't want to listen."

That is the best line of the whole thread. I hope it closes so these two can continue with whatever they want to call it.

[CravenMorhead]

I agree that we've exhausted most avenues of assistance.

Closed.