[liu]

We met each other at 16 and we have been together for 3years. We are 19 now. When I first saw her, I never thought she would be a girl who smoked and drank alcohol before. She started smoking at 12 and drank alcohol at 15. All these happened before she met me. Also, I am troubled by her past relationships. Basically she had 3 relationships and one fling. To her account, all her relationship lasted less than one month and all they did was kiss and hold hands. There were one or two occasions where her ex tried to have sexual contact with her but she turned them down.

For example, she went to this guy house at 14 and they were kissing on the sofa. The guy pulled her hand and led to his groin. She unintentionally touched it and yanked off from his grip. Second, she went to a staircase with her fling because he wanted to smoke. They kissed and that guy tried to touch her breast but she stopped him.

I can't seem to trust my girlfriend on this because firstly she had lied to me about her past. Initially she told me she went to his house and played board games but when I asked her again she told me the above mentioned. Of course, I started to question her to see if she was hiding anything like has she given him any hj or bj things like that or has her fling touched her breast. She repeatedly told me she never had any sexual contact with any guys except me. She assured me I was the first she given in sxually to.

Because of this we fought a lot and things became more and more ugly. I started to lose myself and keep on doubting and because of this I'm losing her. What should I do? Esp girls, could she be telling me the ultimate truth? She told me she whatever she said to me was nothing but the truth.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are a jerk, she has no business having to tell you about her past, and she should have left you months ago, if you keep asking her,

First she was under 16, and she did not have any relationships, so she touched someone, god sake, give me a break. At 18 you will be lucky to find someone who has not had sex with two or three other boys.

This is your issue, thinking you need to know every detail. If you love her, you love her, and just accept. If you don't trust her, do her a favor, she deserves better by the way you are acting

[talaniman]

Learn to shut up, and mind your own business. How dare you interrogate any one like a criminal. You don't sound like a nice fun guy or someone who knows how to treat his lady.

Talk to a trusted older male and hopefully they can straighten you out. Then you can figure out why you are so afraid and insecure.

[mrpigz]

please... you shouldn't treat her this way... everyone had a past... I mean it can be the truth and might not be the truth she said to you... but does it matter?

She is now with you that matters... focus on the present... enjoy your moment with her... don't be too concern about her past... because she and you cannot do anything about it.

I do hope you can treat her better and be more focus on bringing your current relationship to a more fun and enjoyable stint for both you and her...

=)... take care