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Boeing747 · Apr 12, 2013, 12:45 PM

This girl at work has been giving me signs that she likes me. At first, I thought she was just being friendly but she started playing with her hair, smiling at me all the time, and staring at my eyes when talking to her. I thought to let her know I was interested in her, I would tell her that I really liked her hair. She acted all shy, and giggly when I told her.

My friend said, I should ask her out so I did. I didn't ask her out until. I was sure she was interested in me. She said "sure, you decide a date and we'll go". So, I went back to work the week after and asked her if she wanted to go out tonight. At first, she said "she couldn't do tonight because she was having dinner with a friend". I said "I can meet you after work anytime" That's when she told me "I don't know. My boyfriend might get jealous".

Now, I don't know what to do. She had been giving me signals for months and why would she say she'll go out with me in the first place. Should I just ignore her from now on pay her no attention what so ever and do my work or do I talk to her. I don't know whether if she is going to decide between me or him or not.

Homegirl 50 · Apr 12, 2013, 01:07 PM

Leave her alone. She has a boyfriend and why would you want to go out with someone who was contemplating cheating.

Boeing747 · Apr 12, 2013, 01:15 PM

I can't help how I feel about her and she is really nice. Her boyfriend obviously is treating her right because why is she looking else where.

talaniman · Apr 12, 2013, 01:19 PM

You are being set up. She is leading you down a path with flirting and telling you she has a boyfriend so if you pursue and get used as a tool its YOUR fault, not hers because she TOLD you she had a boyfriend.

Back off from this one and keep the work buddy going, but no romance or dating or falling for her any deeper than work. No matter what she says protect your heart at all costs.

She is a predator, you have been warned. Proceed at your own risk.

Cat1864 · Apr 12, 2013, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by Boeing747

I can't help how I feel about her and she is really nice. Her boyfriend obviously is treating her right because why is she looking else where.

Do not make assumptions about her 'boyfriend' because they will probably be false. Some people who have great boy/girlfriends still like to play games with other people. Cheaters do not need a reason, but they can generally make up great excuses and rationalizations for their behavior.

Your next thought might be that if he doesn't treat her right, then I can be Prince Charming and save her from him because I have feelings for her. Very bad idea. She is not a maiden in distress. If she is old enough to date, then she is old enough to get herself out of a relationship she doesn't want to be in before she pursues a new conquest.

She is either playing games with you or she has a habit of sliding from one relationship to the next.

Frankly, I think she is a tease and enjoys the attention. Teases will play and flirt no matter who they are with. Is that what you are looking for in a relationship?