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KOrg88 · Aug 20, 2011, 12:59 AM

I just started a job a few weeks ago. There's this girl that works there that I find really Cute and attractive. I've been noticing that when I started she would occasionally look at me. I thought it was no biggie since I was the new guy at work. I kept noticing after a few weeks that she would look at me sometimes, or somehow be around me. I could also sense that she gets kind of nervous and I believe starts to blush when she is really close to me. Through this time I noticed a guy talking to her and walking with her to the cafeteria and taking breaks together. He would always wait for her. I thought it was her brother since it seemed like they carried along that way. But today at work she was working next to me at my department. I was happy because I finally had a chance to say something. I smiled at her and she smiled back. We didn't say anything. Her "brother" comes to my dept. and tells her that she needed to go to another dept. but she stayed for a little bit. I said something stupid about the job since I really didn't want her to feel uncomfortable. But when I asked her a question about the job she didn't say anything she just pointed. And I asked her again ans then she said something about the job. I thought it was kind of weird. So when she left. I asked a co worker about her and asked her what was her name and who was she? She told me who she was and then mentioned that the guy I thought was her "brother" was actually her boyfriend. I was disappointed because she seemed really nice and is always smiling. She would always look at me though?? Does she like me?? Is She getting nervous?? I feel like she does. I know she has a boyfriend. But she's not married. I will like to be friends but how would her boyfriend see it if I randomly talked to her?? I just don't want to cause trouble at work. What should I do??

Triysle · Aug 20, 2011, 01:19 AM

Ok. First, I'd recommend actually having a conversation with this girl to see if a friendship is even possible. It's very possibly you could be misinterpreting her "glances" because of your own infatuation with her.

Second, if you do pursue a friendship, make sure that you keep it as just a friendship. If she is dating someone, obviously you shouldn't pursue more and even if she breaks up with him do you really want to be a rebound guy?

I think you may be setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment here. Talk to her, see where she stands. If she is flirting with you, that's ok; she may just have a flirtatious personality. Just be careful and don't get too close to fast.

~ Tee

talaniman · Aug 20, 2011, 07:37 AM

When at work its always protocol to be about business, and professional. That's it. You don't rush into a friendship or anything else just be a co worker. Like you said, you are the new guy, in a new place. As curious as you are, you are also the object of curiosity.

Pay attention and do your job, and don't start any drama. Especially with a co worker that you know has a boyfriend. This ain't high school.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 20, 2011, 11:37 AM

A couple of things you need to know, I assume you are very young and this may be a first job.

If you though no fault of your own, cause issues, guess what, "NEW GUY" you will be the one to be let go.

If that is a boyfriend, you are going to make some really hard working relationships.

Next she may just be friendly, and now your looking has her scared of you almost stalking.

This is all in your head, she may not even like guys ? You don't know, she has not talked to you.

So talk to her in real life, and leave make believe to farmville